AIBU to go out

[Astrid01]

This has been massive row between H and me. I don't think i'm unreasonable but wanted to get some other opinions.
Back story first:
I normally go out twice a week in the evenings. One exercise class after the kids are in bed and one other for my hobby. H puts DC to bed that night.
He normally goes out one evening straight from work but can't at the moment as it's too dark and spends a few hours out one day at the weekend. Pre covid he was always in the.pub and on a Friday would go there straight from work.
I do all drop offs and pick ups for kids and all their running around to swimming etc. I do all the life admin, washing etc.

This week I have done my two hobbies, it is my work Xmas lunch today and tomorrow evening I am out for a Christmas 'do' with friends. H is kicking off because he has to put the DC to bed by himself for 3 nights in a row. It's a one off, it's Christmas and I hardly ever go out. No more plans for Xmas nights out. If it was his plans, it would never occur to him to check if I was OK with it.
AIBU to go out twice in a row this week?

Your DH is a dick 😂

always good to have your feelings validated

Your DH is a jealous dick 😂

There are seven nights a week. He is still doing bedtime less than 50pc of the time for ONE WEEK.

If he was a vaguely decent dad and partner, he would be doing three nights a week, every week.

It would have been great when I was married to know that doing three nights in a row was a reason to kick off! I missed a trick there

He is being ridiculous. You are not making an unreasonable request.

My DP was out last Thursday, stayed over at a hotel for a night out on Friday ( my choice can’t be dealing with the “ I love you sooooooo much…are you listening to me?? Babe can we chat “ shit at 3 am when he comes in ha ha 😂 ) didn’t come home until 4pm on Saturday and has now caught covid so he is in the spare room for another 7 days and I’ve had to do bed time with my dd all those nights. Dp has told me once his isolation ends he’s doing bath and bed for 2 weeks straight it’s normally alternative nights in my house. It’s give and take it’s part of being a parent what does he think single parents do EVERY NIGHT of the week and not just 3??

YANBU. I bet he doesn't care when you put the kids to bed on your own 3 nights in a row.

Seconding the DH is a dick vote (as a lone parent who does ALL the nights)

I don't believe that putting the kids to bed is THAT much of a traumatic experience that he can't manage it on his own for a few nights. If it is, he is doing it wrong.

Go out and enjoy yourself.