to think that "we havent found cancer but we havent found the cause so lets watch and wait" is not a reason to celebrate?

[PyongyangKipperbang]

Talking about me.

Spent the last month waiting for my appointment (had the urgent referral but it was to the wrong clinic) and today had a lot of painful tests. The consultant said that they havent found anything that indicates cancer, but they havent found the cause of my problems so they cant rule it out. Everyone who knows about my tests (not many, parents, partner, work) are acting like this is great. But to me it isnt.

I want to know whats wrong. They cant tell me. They cant rule out cancer, which with my symptoms is the most likely cause. I think that they all want me to be ok, which I get but I get the feeling that because I am not also being YAYY! about it, they think I am being negative.

AIBU to still be worried about cancer, but putting my hopes into it not being? I feel I am being positive. I am doing all I need to to health wise to make sure that a) if I do end up with C word thhen I will be in the best place possible to deal with the treatment and b) if I dont I am in the best place to ward it off in the future?

Apparently this is "borrowing trouble".

I should add that the consultant did say that he was expecting a different result today, that most people with my symptoms do end up with a cancer dx. He was at great pains to push how my general health will help should it happen in the future. I trust him and will follow his advice.

They're trying to boost you, you're being realistic. That's what happens because it goes against human nature to say to someone in a bad situation "Well, don't get your hopes up," but that's exactly what we will tell ourselves.

I hope you get some answers soon. It must be terribly frustrating to not have a plan of action. Best wishes

Thats a good point.

How much would I be slagging them off if they said "Well they havent said it ISNT cancer!"?!

We are all doing the right thing arent we? I just wish I knew for sure one way or another.

Thank you

Honestly, I can imagine how frustrating this is for you so I sympathize.

But I've been on the other side (your families side) and I would guess they are just so desperate to hear that it's not cancer, that that's the only thing they can focus on.
It just means they love you and want you to be ok.

I don't mean this to sound unsympathetic to the stress and worry you're under- just trying to explain their reaction.

Best of luck with the diagnosis