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So sick of male aggression

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UndertheCedartree · 02/12/2021 15:47

I twisted my ankle yesterday and was unable to get my DD to school. Her dad (we're not together) wasn't picking up the phone. So she had to stay at home and do home learning. I asked her dad to take her today but apparently he couldn't get her to school on time. So I asked my best friend. It was very inconvenient for her but she said yes - no problem! So grateful. Her dad is going to pick her up. So he says he won't see the DC on Saturday because of doing this today. So not only do I need to sort something for tomorrow I now need help for Saturday. Anyway, I raised this with him and he shouted that I was being rude when he was helping me out. He's usually not aggressive to me but I'm usually working hard to make his life as easy as possible! The truth is he has stepped up and helped me in the past but the situation really made it impossible for him not to. I realise that I do whatever I can to keep him sweet so there is no aggression - something I learned in childhood. I'm in so much pain and so tired it has just got on top of me today and I can't stop crying. I hate male aggression!

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UndertheCedartree · 02/12/2021 21:20

Just me then! I'm feeling better now, though.

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whereislittleroo · 02/12/2021 21:36

I haven't been in exactly this position OP but I think it's something a lot of women do. Whether it's not standing up for ourselves when our partners are thoughtless, or going out of our way to remove difficulties for men. The trouble is, after a while, it becomes the norm and expected - and then any time you don't do it, you are "making life hard" for them.

Shoxfordian · 02/12/2021 21:48

Stop doing whatever you can to make his life easy. Find some counselling to unlearn this nonsense

UndertheCedartree · 02/12/2021 22:22

@whereislittleroo - yes, that makes sense

@Shoxfordian - if only it were so easy.

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