To still like presents at Christmas for myself?

[giraffes2021]

So me and DP having a discussion tonight about Christmas presents for each other

He's of the opinion that if we want something we normally do buy it ourselves so there's no need to do presents anymore? We have two small children so yes whilst I agree that it's mainly about them I still like getting gifts for one and other!

It's probably the only time of year where it's something thoughtful and I still like presents like for me it's not something you might need or want but it's a gift ?

My thoughts are we put all our energy into the kids as it is what about still making an effort for your relationship?

I am probably going to get hammered for this post but wondering what everyone's thoughts are!

Nope! I love Christmas and would be gutted to not have any surprises. Even daft things like socks or pyjamas and I'm happy. DH and I still buy for each other and have fun with it

I've tried to persuade my DH around to buying each other holidays etc but he insists on actual presents to open.
I'm happy to buy for him I just find it hard to think of something he can get me!
We don't have DC but my parents never bought for each other when we were young and I remember worrying they were going to split up the year I was old enough to understand that it wasn't just Santa, adults bought each other presents too.
I'd think about that too, as a pp said your modeling a romantic relationship to your children. Even if you don't have much money, something small and thoughtful to open will make Christmas happier for all of you.

I agree with you, it would be nice, I'm also in the same boat. I never get birthday or Christmas presents but break my neck to make sure everyone else does, I'm going to buy myself something nice that I can save for Christmas Day this year, as in other years I find it quite upsetting....

I love present swapping presents and would be really sad to stop. DP always chooses great gifts for me. We usually buy things for each other's hobbies or upgrades to older things we have (new wallet, sports jersey, etc). I don't think we ever useless items for the sake of it.

Ever buy useless items*

I'm with you OP. Even small presents like nice socks, treats etc show that the person knows you and cares about you. I think he can't be arsed to think about it. Which is a bit shit.

We normally don't buy for each other anymore. We both hate receiving gifts we don't really need or want. I'd rather go out in the Jan sales to pick up something I want. DH isn't bothered about presents at all and is happy to buy what he wants throughout the year.

Hell yeah! DH knows it's more than his life is worth not to make sure I have a few wrapped pressies under the tree on Christmas morning.

Whilst I do agree with your husband, I also like recieving gifts. When they're thoughtful (looking at you DM feel free to not buy for me again)

So we set a budget at Xmas of £20 each.

Birthdays and our anniversary is entirely different and we go crazy. But Christmas, becuase we have so many to buy for and recieve from, we spend £20 on each other and give the children £20 each to buy for each other too.

It's a nice compromise for us. He generally doesn't understand Christmas, he was raised without it so finds my love of it quite confusing.

We have just one or two each
from each other and nothing from anyone else (millennial DC have enough to spend their money on). We say exactly what we want to avoid unnecessary waste. Compromise is possible, y'know.

I always give DH a list of things I'd like. Usually slightly more extravagant versions of things I would buy myself. Occasionally he will surprise me.