AIBU?
to be pissed off with my SIL canceling at the last moment again?
curlywurlycremeegg · 17/12/2007 09:41
Just ranting really. A small group of mums meet up every Monday at different soft play areas for kids to play together. I always drive the furthest, between 45 and 60 mins to get there as I live miles away from the rest of them. DD (2.8) loves going and playing with her friends. We already knew that this week there would only be three of us as one mum had a mandatory training day at work, another had a scan booked etc, one of the mums called off this morning with a cold, so that leaves me and my SIL with the kids. She phones me just as I was about to set off saying so and so couldn't make it as she had a cold and as she (my SIL0 had "loads to do" and had only just got up she wasn't going to bother. Am now going to take DD and DS2 to another one nearer home but DD is upset as she wanted to play with her cousin. This isn't the first time she has done this and I am getting really pissed off, it feels like we aren't worth the effort of getting ready to go out but everyone else is. AIBU??
curlywurlycremeegg · 17/12/2007 09:56
mmm, well I'm not accepting of it at the moment I have tended to be forgiving of both my SIL's too much, I do like to think that everyone is "nice really". DS1 hasn't had a birthday present or card from either of them for the last two years and I feel so for him about it, if I had forgotten one of their kids then I would soon know about it [fblush}. I guess I am just having my eyes opened to it really and it upsets me that they just aren't very considerate of others circumstances.
AngharadGoldenhand · 17/12/2007 14:11
curlywurlycremeegg - if sil's usually fairly inconsiderate then YANBU!
The only thing you can do with family who upset is, as you say, to step back a bit. I have ishoos of various sorts with inlaws and the only way it doesn't bother me, is to kind of hold them at arm's length. Not to believe their promises and let things wash over me. (Not that I always succeed!)
Perhaps every now and then (once a month), the group could meet up nearer you, to make it a bit fairer?
curlywurlycremeegg · 17/12/2007 16:33
angharad, thanks for that, I will try to let it "wash over me", I get more annoyed for the DC than myself as they are the ones who are let down, it's just inconvenience for me. Feel much more now, had a lovely day out with DD and DS2 and just been helping DD make her Christmas cards.
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