Aibu to ask for extra nursery settling sessions?

[Isahlo]

As above, DD (just 1) given 1x1h and 1x2h sessions before starting 3 days 8-6

I’d really like to work up to this more slowly but I don’t know if I can ask?

Background

Massive physical trauma at birth life changing injuries awful

Which led to postnatal depression, and psychosis

I’m about 70% ready but I just can’t bear leaving her.

I was similar with my boys when it came to nursery and you can definitely request more sessions, but the nursery actually said to me that it can make it harder for baby, as they begin to associate the nursery with mummy, which can make it harder to settle without you. We had a few bad days when they first started, but honestly they coped much better than me.

Maybe, we’re injuries to you or her?

Rather than more settling in sessions could you book her in for half days for a couple of weeks?

DS goes the nursery in the same pattern as your DD. I started him 6 weeks before I went back to work and (although had to pay full price) the manager and I came up with shorter day patterns that eventually worked up to the full days. We started with 10-2, then 10-4, then 8-4, then had to go back to 10-2 a couple of times and then the last week he finally managed to stay the full days without any issues. There were no more actual settling in sessions offered, but they were happy to accommodate the staggered introduction at my request. Maybe it's something you can explore with them?

You can always request more settling in sessions, settling in sessions are for the child, parent and staff members, if your child needs more settles ,nursery will understand and arrange more, if its you struggling, nursery may be less accommodating

I'm not sure if they do it if it's the parent who's struggling but I know they do (or at least ours did) if it's for the benefit of the child. My son had additional sessions when he started. He was too poorly to start when he was supposed to for a few weeks after he'd already had the settling sessions so I wanted him to have a few more when he was better as it had been so long and he'd got very clingy after being poorly (quite traumatic, hospital stay etc).

No harm in asking, though I’m sure they’ll expect you to pay for them.

Thanks everyone more than happy to pay obviously