To think this is not pedantic

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Person ‘I told Paul you are doing that on the weekend’

Me ‘I’m doing it Thursday’

Person ‘you’re so pedantic’

More info on the thing that’s being done, it’s will done in the day, I’m taking time off work to do it, it’s something that can as easily be done in the week as on the weekend. Has no impact on Paul, or ‘person’.

Unreasonable - it is pedantic
Not unreasonable - not pedantic

Not pedantic but accurate...

I think 'Person' doesn't like being told he's wrong

The difference between Thursday and the weekend is significant, so it's not pedantic to point it out - there could be real life consequences depending on what the 'it' is, indeed it could be helpful.

Sounds like the other person thinks the timing of the 'it' isn't particularly important, but that still doesn't make it pedantic to be accurate about a 48hour difference

I agree with all 3 posters above. 👍🏼

Guessing this is your H?

@AuntieStella

The difference between Thursday and the weekend is significant, so it's not pedantic to point it out - there could be real life consequences depending on what the 'it' is, indeed it could be helpful.

Sounds like the other person thinks the timing of the 'it' isn't particularly important, but that still doesn't make it pedantic to be accurate about a 48hour difference

Person thinks they are 24 hours out, apparently Friday is the weekend, which I find a surprising viewpoint for someone who works a Saturday 🤷🏻‍♀️.

I understand that Friday evening could be seen at the weekend but not in the day.

I have a similar issue with my OH - as in he doesn't understand why I don't know what he means if he doesn't actually SAY what he means! Example: Him - we only have brown bread. Me ?🤷? Him - I said we only have brown bread. Me - why are you telling me that? Him - I thought you might like me to get some white bread from the shop. Me - well why didn't you just ask me that then? Him - I did. Is it pedantic of me to ask him just to say what he means instead of my having to guess?

Hard to say without some indication of the magnitude of the thing being done, and whether the main point of the conversation was the "thing" and not it's exact timing.

Eg "So sorry to hear you're going to Switzerland for euthanasia next weekend."

"You're wrong! I'm going on Thursday."

@DilemmaDelilah I can relate to this, I was accused of ‘probing’ yesterday when I was trying to get to the bottom of what he meant about something, we’ll I was but only to clarify what he meant so I could understand what he was saying.

It depends on the reason you corrected the person to be honest. I have someone in my life who corrects every little detail I might get wrong and it’s tiresome to have a conversation with someone who picks up on every slight error (ie if I say I paid £20 for something, they’ll say “I’m sure it was £18.99” etc). If the day of the week was a passing detail in the conversation, I’d say it was pedantic to correct them.

But agree, Thursday is not the weekend (nor is Friday)

Yanbu - No you're not being pedantic to correct day someone thinks you are doing something, if it's relevant and has implications. "Person" is misusing the word as it's likely key not erroneous information

You'd be pedantic to correct it if it was a story from 5 years ago .., "we went into town one Saturday and met Mabel.." "no actually Roger I think you'll find it was a Thursday..." is irritating and pedantic

But UGH..
It's annoying you've written 'me' then Person . A little vague context won't out your. Is it your DP? your Dad?, Mum? DBro? Friend? Work colleague? - For that YABU!!!

@DilemmaDelilah

I have a similar issue with my OH - as in he doesn't understand why I don't know what he means if he doesn't actually SAY what he means! Example: Him - we only have brown bread. Me ?🤷? Him - I said we only have brown bread. Me - why are you telling me that? Him - I thought you might like me to get some white bread from the shop. Me - well why didn't you just ask me that then? Him - I did. Is it pedantic of me to ask him just to say what he means instead of my having to guess?

Ugh- I hate this too!! I want people to Say what they mean, don't start half way through a missing sentence! Nor give me a whole meander of thoughts with a question somewhere hidden ... I regularly ask one of my (lovely) Parents (who fully admit to being pendants! 🤣) - Why are you telling me this? - How is it related ?

• I have no idea what you are talking about or why?
• Short version please if you are asking a question ...
• I'm lost. Please just say what you want me to do?!