To ask family member to stop posting photos of my newborn on social media without any permission

[OctMama]

I had my DS last month and have repeatedly told my sister(30) before he was born to not post his photos without my permission as I’m a very private person and she is the opposite sharing everything on social media. Yesterday my friends commented on the amount of photos she’s posted of DS however I haven’t seen any of these new posts so she must have blocked me from viewing them. AIBU to be annoyed? She even announced his birth before me and had blocked me from viewing it I saw it as she was scrolling through her phone. As a single parent I feel so protective over him but get that she’s proud.

She's very rude and I'd be really upset.

My Grandson was born 9 weeks ago and my DD doesn't want any photos of him on social media and I completely respect that.

She's never announced her pregnancy, she's a very private person despite being early 20's.

Your ds is very rude.

You’ve already asked her not to, so I can’t see any point in asking her again. Don’t let her have or take any photos.

She knows she’s doing wrong blocking you from her posts. Tell her she can’t see him again if she keeps doing this.
That’s really harsh too announcing the birth before you. Proper bad

We live together at the moment so it’s very hard to understand why she’s doing this! I’m even wondering whether there’s a way I can contact Facebook I’m not keen on another confrontation when I’ve repeatedly told her not to post anything

go No Contact, and let her know why.
Incredibly rude and dismissive of her.

Ask one of the friends that has seen them to post a response along the lines of "so this is the baby whose mother asked you not to post any images of?"

On the plus side - at least if you can't see them, presumably they're not widely available, jsut her immediate contacts?

Tell her in very crystal clear language she is to take the photos down. Also don't send her anymore photos of your kid anymore.

I would make a fake account and add her to fb (or via your friends account) and report all the photos to FB (you can do that if someone is posting photos of kids that aren't hers)

The nerve of her.
I would have been so angry

Sorry, cross posted - going no contact might be hard if you live together!
how undoable is the living together situation? - sounds a nightmare.

"I feel so protective over him but get that she’s proud."

She's not proud, she's attention-seeking. And a rude fucker to boot, announcing your child's birth before you and blocking you.

I'd post straight on her wall. "DSis, I've asked you repeatedly not to and all you have done is hide them from my view hoping I won't find out, so I need to say it clearer: Please stop posting photos of my son on here" but do it when you know your sister is busy and won't be able to check her FB for a while. Does she swim? Or go jogging? Perhaps she works where she can't have her phone with her? Pick the best time you can that will allow the post to stay up before she sees and deletes it.

Her audience will see it and those photos will lose their appeal. She may even have a friend or two who will chastise her on them next time she tries.

I’m looking for a way of reporting them direct to Facebook but as I can’t see them it’s hard! She has blocked our other family members too but is known for her attention seeking posts. I do feel really violated she uses it to her advantage that I’m reliant on her support as we live together and I’m a new first time mum and have recently split up with my partner so feel vunerable at the moment. I am planning to move out once I’ve settled more. Maybe if one of my friends reports the posts but as they aren’t “offensive” by fb standards I’m not sure!