To not tell them when I get my spa treatment

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I got a lovely gift from a relative for a relaxing spa treatment, when I opened it they said the gift included babysitting which I was very grateful for but then said so you can drop DC at ours for a few hours while you have a pamper and then pop round ours afterwards for a bit before taking DC home.

Thing is (and I sound very ungrateful here) DC is a lively 7 month old and it is a right pain to get him ready to go anywhere so even though they don't live too far away I'd have to faff about getting him ready, drop him off then double back on myself, probably in a rush, to get to my appointment on time. Also, said relatives get very excited still with DS, passing him between one another and making a lot of excited noises which I find a bit overwhelming. It's definitely not what I will feel like after a relaxing treatment.

I'm super grateful for the gift but wibu to just not tell then when I've booked my treatment and ask my mum nearer the time? In the past my mum has just popped up and chilled with DC till I've got back so I've only got myself to get there and back. Would this be rude of me?

Why don’t you ask them to come to yours instead?

In my opinion that would not be unreasonable, a gift is not meant to make your life harder.

Your plan sounds sensible to me. Take him to theirs a different day and then get a few hours to yourself with a latte or in the cinema before you go back, say thanks and collect him!

Oh and do the treatment day first, so then you can describe it as it really was to them when you do the pretend treatment babysitting day.

Get your DM to babysit. If they mention they had offered, just say "but you were so generous giving the voucher, I thought that was enough of a gift." Surely nobody can give you grief when you're being so grateful and thoughtful. 😉

Sounds fine

I know that sounds like an obvious solution! They have a dog and don't like to leave her for long so when they come round they always leave after 1 1/2 max so think this is why they ask for DC to go to theirs. They have a big boisterous dog so I don't like them bringing the dog around (even though I love dogs) they are quite sensitive so feelings get hurt quite easily

Ah sorry that was a reply to @LawnFever

@Skiptheheartsandflowers @Justmuddlingalong
Ooh I love these ideas!

@Skiptheheartsandflowers

Oh and do the treatment day first, so then you can describe it as it really was to them when you do the pretend treatment babysitting day.

Definitely do this! But make sure your dc doesn't blab that "mummy went to the spa the other day..." 😆

DC would have a job saying that, given he's 7 months old ...

@Justmuddlingalong

Get your DM to babysit. If they mention they had offered, just say "but you were so generous giving the voucher, I thought that was enough of a gift." Surely nobody can give you grief when you're being so grateful and thoughtful. 😉

This.

Definitely do what is easier for you.