Not to buy 2nd hand clothes for DD?

[Lovethe2ndHandPreloved]

She’s 7. I buy 2nd or 3rd hand toys and books. We also use the local and school libraries for books to read. DD often asks for 2nd hand presents for her birthday or Christmas if she sees something in the charity shop or on some of the facebook pages she likes (sylvanian families and similar are usually chosen by her 2nd hand).

But I buy clothes new. Not because I don’t like 2nd hand but because I’ve found it’s false economy to us as DDs very clumsy, with 2nd hand I find I’m buying constantly as she wears through the knees falling over or she goes through the wrists with her fingers pushing against them or she stains the already washed a 100 times tshirts after 1 use and I feel we can’t use them.

I buy 2nd hand clothes for me (most of the time, I do occasionally buy new, and all underwear, socks and tights are always new for both me and DD) and I give away to charity shops DDs old clothes if in good condition.

But I feel guilty not buying 2nd hand clothes for her when I know she doesn’t mind 2nd hand stuff and would probably prefer it, AIBU?

Why would it be unreasonable I never buy second hand clothes for myself or my kids..

It's a but of an odd thing to get worked up about. I buy new clothes for my daughter when I need specific things, but will pick up a bargain on local sell & swap groups of I see sthg particularly nice. I take second hand things when passed on to me. I don't think you need to stress yourself out trawling through charity shops for her others if you don't need to. In my opinion you'd be a bit silly to pass up good hand me downs if given, but I really don't think this is something you need to stress about!

I don't understand where the guilt is coming from? Buy whatever you want, you don't have to justify it.

Very strange topic to get worked up about...I never bought second hand clothes for my children my grandchildren have never been bought second hand clothes.....all above children/GC have worn hand me downs from family/friends.... move on....enjoy the rest of your weekend

Good lord, why do you need to justify your decisions to people in here?

Second hand clothes is only really worth it for designer stuff baby sizes or for occasionwear like kids wedding wear etc. It’s really not worth it for stuff kids wear day in day out

@Lovethe2ndHandPreloved

She’s 7. I buy 2nd or 3rd hand toys and books. We also use the local and school libraries for books to read. DD often asks for 2nd hand presents for her birthday or Christmas if she sees something in the charity shop or on some of the facebook pages she likes (sylvanian families and similar are usually chosen by her 2nd hand).

But I buy clothes new. Not because I don’t like 2nd hand but because I’ve found it’s false economy to us as DDs very clumsy, with 2nd hand I find I’m buying constantly as she wears through the knees falling over or she goes through the wrists with her fingers pushing against them or she stains the already washed a 100 times tshirts after 1 use and I feel we can’t use them.

I buy 2nd hand clothes for me (most of the time, I do occasionally buy new, and all underwear, socks and tights are always new for both me and DD) and I give away to charity shops DDs old clothes if in good condition.

But I feel guilty not buying 2nd hand clothes for her when I know she doesn’t mind 2nd hand stuff and would probably prefer it, AIBU?

Your kid has clothes to wear and that's really all that matters

What an odd thing to post about, do what works for you.

I don't understand your reasoning at all but it's not unreasonable as such.

Why the guilt?

Obviously the guilt is because buying new clothes all the time is bad for the environment. There are more than enough second hand clothes to go around everyone for years to come without producing anything new. OP, I feel the same if I buy anything new for mine. I set out with the intention of getting mostly second hand but do about 50/50 probably in the end. But I don't get your reasoning - better to stain a second hand item than a new one.

Spend your money on whatever you like of course YANBU.
Other people are also NBU as you are just creating more landfill and earth destroying logistics/shipping and NBU for judging you for it.

Do what you want

Some odd threads recently about second hand clothes.

I don't buy any second hand clothes. I am never in town to go into Charity shops and I'm not on Facebook.

Not bought 2nd hand clothes for my dds since they were pre school.

Actually we loads hand me downs

Your reasoning makes no sense? If she's clumsy with spills and wearing then surely second hand is better?

@Polmuggle

Your reasoning makes no sense? If she's clumsy with spills and wearing then surely second hand is better?

Agree. Also agree that it's better to buy second hand where possible. I do!

I have a clumsy DC as well and preferred second hand because could relax about stains, tears because not expensive item and could cheaply have dozen of everything for them to wear. I do buy new as well, but for special events like a wedding.

Your virtue has been well and truly signalled.

@Chikapu

Your virtue has been well and truly signalled.

TBH OP I still bought loads of secondhand clothes for DS at that age, NCT Nearly New Sales are great for clothing which sometimes has been barely worn (unwanted gifts, perhaps), especially in the girls' section. So if you really, really wanted to buy secondhand, which you really sound like you'd prefer, there are secondhand clothes out there which aren't falling apart at the slightest touch.

At that age it was impossible to buy anything second hand unless it was an occassion dress, dress up or outdoor/forest school clothes.

DD also was mainly out of the total mud-loving phase, if she was dirty, she was in the stable and wore riding gear anyway.

I think buying new clothes doesn't have to be automatically wrong, it depends on the item. I try to buy clothes which last and unless totally useless I pass it on.

Why do people fall over themselves on here to try to prove how much they buy second hand?

I buy second hand nice clothes. I don't buy second hand cheap clothes but nice brands I buy second hand because they're usually hard-wearing and great condition. I've found that spending the same on new clothes results in poorer quality clothes that shrink.

But its really each to their own