Am I over reacting

[Chix2]

My son has been at pre school for a year now and recently they got a new staff member, one of my husbands ex’s. This makes me feel uncomfortable and I don’t want to see her everyday or have her round my child. Me and husband have been together for 16 years so it’s a long time ago but still makes me feel uncomfortable and I want to change pre school, but it’s not fair on him because he is happy. Does anyone else think it’s a wired situation or am I over reacting?

@RockallMalinHebrides

I wouldn’t be comfortable with this.

Could you explain why?

Last weekend me and dh met up and had a pint with my ex from 16/17 years ago. I can imagine that is bordering on weird to some people.

You are being completely unreasonable. He married you, not her. Don't be a twat to your son because you're insecure.

@Chix2

This person has caused problems before, my mum works in childcare and they worked at a group together she told my mum she used to sleep with my husband before we met, which I find really weird to say that to my mum. I try my best to ignore her when I pick him up but always feels like she is watching me and she always seems to have hold of him it’s never the 4 other workers ?

Is she his key worker?

You sound like a paranoid pain in the bum

Unless you have a reason to believe she will try and seduce your husband during drop off/ pick up then calm down!

One of my exes is our son’s godfather and one of my DHs exes is our other sons godmother. DH and I have been together 35 years, married 31 years and there was no overlap.

Make a joke about her good taste in men, thank her for looking after your child and stop being so teenage about it. 16 years, are you sure she is even going to recognise your dp! I am not sure I would recognise any of my exes, they all look like sagging mid lifers and not the buff boys they once were. Honestly op I think you are seriously insecure and overreacting unless there is a back story or a secret child somewhere.

You are so over reacting

Grow up

You're being ridiculous.

Wow, that’s a massive over reaction. IF she actually causes a problem, then by all means deal with it but fgs it was 16 years ago!!!!
Are you seriously suggesting that your OH is that good a catch that she’s held out for that length of time in order to snare him back and then taken a job to target him via his son? If so and he really is that great, what makes you think he would act on it anyway?
Your sons happiness needs to come first. Time to grow up and put childish insecurities and paranoia away

Keep your enemies close 😉

Ridiculous.

And mentioning to a coworker that you went out with her son in law years ago is hardly ‘causing problems’.

Relax, Stop trying to avoid her, behave normally and respect the fact that she does her job well and is making your son happy.