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AIBU to think that this wasnt totally my fault?

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ChatterMonkey · 26/11/2021 16:56

Will start by saying this is light hearted, the issue has not caused any major argument, just a difference of opinion...

So, to set the scene, how our living room furniture is set up means that between my chair and dp's gaming chair, i have a little table that i use for when im doing embroidery. Drinks will often be put on this table and used by both of us for this purpose.

The gap for me to get past out of my chair is narrow, and more so when dp is sitting in his gaming chair as it tilts back slightly.

Theres a knock on the door so I get up to answer it, and while squeezing past the table and the chair, i knock over dp's can of lager. Goes all over the floor.

I continue to go and answer the door, as the neighbour is waiting (she had taken in a parcel for me earlier), and when I come back, dp is making a big fuss about having to clean up the carpet, saying its going to stink and rubbing at it with kitchen roll etc etc. I go and get a warm damp cloth and clean up properly.

He thinks that its totally my fault and I need to move the table so its further back, but then wouldnt be easy to access when im using it for embroidery. I said that he could help by swiveling the chair slightly when he can see Im needing to get past, to allow a bigger gap for me to get through.

AIBU to think it wasn't totally my fault and that dp has some responsibility in causing this as well?

OP posts:
mrsm43s · 26/11/2021 17:33

Well, its some spilt beer, no big deal, and not something that needs to have fault assigned to it.

That said, all in all, it sounds as though the way you currently have the furniture set out isn't working for you, if you can't get up from your chair without knocking drinks off of the table. So maybe you should both have a rethink about how the room layout could be improved for you both.

HelplesslyHoping · 26/11/2021 17:55

Could you move the table slightly further back until you're using it for embroidery, and he can move his chair slightly out of the way so you both contribute to safer lager storage?

Dishwashersaurous · 26/11/2021 17:59

Sorry. You knocked the table. This one is your fault

Vuvuvuzela · 26/11/2021 18:01

Assigning blame is pointless, it was just an accident because your furniture set up isn't right. Move things around so it doesn't happen again.

user1471457751 · 26/11/2021 18:02

You should have been more careful, you know drinks are kept on that table. Why didn't you just ask him to squeeze in so you could get passed?

MeltedButter · 26/11/2021 18:02

Sorry I'm leaning towards it being your fault.

TheCanyon · 26/11/2021 18:06

Really we need a diagram to decide. Go on op, get working on a drawing at that table.

girlmom21 · 26/11/2021 18:11

You're both at fault for leaving the furniture where it is when it inconveniences you both so much.

Although you could've said "oh shit sorry I'll be back in 2 minutes to clean that up and get you a fresh one" as you knocked it over.

Chloemol · 26/11/2021 18:49

Put his gaming equipment in another room

Job solved

Rocktheboat56 · 26/11/2021 19:05

It's a little like the Titanic. At the time it was a wonderful thing and working well. Fit for purpose until one day an over sight causes tragedy. He should have said oh no and then I'll get another. Never to use that table again.

It's a beer no one got injured so he's over reacting because he's been very very very very very slightly inconvenienced.

youcancallmeow · 27/11/2021 20:19

your neighbour took a parcel in for you and had to bring it round to you your a cheeky fucker on that alone

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