Cleaner posting pictures of my house on Facebook without permission

[LosingAtHumanBopIt]

Just spotted that my cleaner has taken photos post clean and put them on her Facebook page. Am I being unreasonable to expect to be asked if this is ok first? The one that most irked me was my DDs nursery, not completely sure why but it has.

@Almostmenopausal

Ohhh I'd be fuming! I've seen cleaners do before & after pics of w tire rooms and despite being disabled, it really does put me off hiring help

@LosingAtHumanBopIt

I wouldn’t let anything put you off hiring w cleaner. They are wonderful people to have. It’s not normal for someone to do this without permission.

OP
I hope you have got up this morning ready to text your cleaner to say "please remove all the photos of my house & rooms from all your social media including Facebook. I am unhappy about this"

It's such a breach of your privacy and no, cleaners or other contractors who work in your home don't usually do this.

I can see why a kitchen fitter or decorator might want to show before and after photoshots- but they ask permission first and show you the photos to check you agree!!

That's very different to what is essentially photos of your private stuff in a mess and your dirt!!! before a cleaner cleans it up- And even when it's clean as an after photo - it's still just photos of your belongings and stuff that's recognisable in rooms not all visitors are invited into ... A burglar's or stalker's delight really...

This was a very foolish and naïve move by the cleaner. You need to ask her to take them down. We had a window cleaner do it. The photos showed all of our home exterior and through most of the windows. 😳

Thank you everyone for confirming I'm not being precious. The close up of the shower door or kitchen sink, although would prefer to be asked, I don't mind too much. My DDs bedroom however only needs a quick dust and hoover as I keep that the tidiest. None of which you can particularly see from the shot taken from the door mainly of the cot and wall art. Rant over, I'm going to message her now. I've also checked the little contract she drew up any previous messages in case I missed something. What a silly thing for them to do.

@Allmyarseandpeggymartin

Our cleaner did this - luckily you couldn’t tell it was our house. The worst bit is that it was a really filthy plug trap in the shower, proper demonstrated her skills but FFS I never thought I’d be dirty plug hole shamed online!

I would absolutely hate this, I have seen she's done this to someone else. Made time to find someone else

I'd get another cleaner. This one doesn't seem to appreciate this is your home.

I had a similar situation with a painter and decorator and I asked him to take them down. I probably wouldn't have minded him posting the photos if he had asked first. It was the lack of courtesy more than anything.

I am a cleaner. I would absolutely never dream of doing this. It is a breach of the trust extended to me when the client gives me keys to work in their home.
They are trusting me with their most valuable asset. I therefore, show absolute respect for their home. This is not respectful. I am appalled that someone would do this.

She should definitely have asked first. I wouldn't want pictures of an entire room online. Of course some people might be fine with it, but she should ask. Personally I wouldn't mind an unidentifiable before and after of a small area to demonstrate her skills, such as an oven or a spot on a carpet or something as long as I wasn't mentioned as the owner of disgusting before oven or whatever.
If she is someone who has just started up their own small business and maybe not very experienced I might assume she just didn't think and give her a chance if she seemed nice, took down the photos and was apologetic when I talked to her about it.

Complete CF territory.

I would leave a note on her page warning others that their house may be photographed without permission.

A huge breach of your privacy.
I would be furious.

YANBU. I would be looking for a new cleaner. They aren't allowed to post without permission.

@LosingAtHumanBopIt

Just spotted that my cleaner has taken photos post clean and put them on her Facebook page. Am I being unreasonable to expect to be asked if this is ok first? The one that most irked me was my DDs nursery, not completely sure why but it has.

Absolutely not unreasonable to ask for them to be taken down. Just making it easier for potential burglars to see the layout of your home, I wouldn't post my home online but that's personal choice. Cleaner should have definitely asked you first

@FartnissEverbeans

My cleaner set a picture of my son as her profile picture!!

Of course YANBU

how did she think that was okay?!

She should have asked.

But in reality no one will know it's your house. It's clean. And there's presumably no photos/personal items in the photos?

I wouldnt bother worrying. My plasterer took photos of our renovation without asking. Didn't bother me at all. It was sinister and no harm done.

Definitely out of order
She shouldn't be taking pictures of your home without permission.
Time to find a new cleaner

This is absolutely not okay, whole rooms should not be posted without permission. I'd absolutely not mind a before/ after pic of things like sinks, oven, fridge etc... as I think people like to see how well the cleaner cleans before hiring people.

I'd be really annoyed tell her not to come back. The trust is gone
You shouldn't need to tell people not to do this, it's rude

Is she new to the job op-serious breach of privacy there at least ask first!

I'm FB 'friends' with a cleaner (school mum) and she does this all the time! And I always have a flick through the photos out of nosiness, so no, I would not like this done to me. It's an invasion of privacy, you get people like me having a nosy, inwardly critiquing your decor, and it's a security risk (location of tech, layout of house, where the keyhooks are etc). Very out of order.

Completely out of order.She disrespects your boundaries and I would worry what else she disrespects.It would be a sacking offence for me.I have been a cleaner for several years.

@Paradisebeach

Oh my God - I follow a cleaner who posted that her client asked her not to bother cleaning the bedroom because it had been left in too much of a state so to leave it alone.

The cleaner went in to the bedroom and took a photo of all the clean laundry that looked like it had been tipped out on the bed in a rush and posted it on Instagram!!!! With a caption saying something like ‘client was right, bedroom too messy to clean today’

What a cunt

@Paradisebeach

Oh my God - I follow a cleaner who posted that her client asked her not to bother cleaning the bedroom because it had been left in too much of a state so to leave it alone.

The cleaner went in to the bedroom and took a photo of all the clean laundry that looked like it had been tipped out on the bed in a rush and posted it on Instagram!!!! With a caption saying something like ‘client was right, bedroom too messy to clean today’

Fuck no! That's awful.

@NearlyThereMum @shouldistop

I know, it was bizarre. We live overseas and DS (who was a baby at the time) gets a lot of attention because of his pale skin/blue eyes/blonde hair. Cleaner was a Sri Lankan lady (no idea if that’s relevant tbh, maybe I’m missing something cultural?) and I don’t think she intended it to be weird, but it was. There were a few other issues as well though and I found a different cleaner after that.

A cleaner in my towns FB page did this. I thought it was bloody stupid because I know what cleaned things look like. I also wondered if she'd asked the home owners permission. I wouldn't be happy and would be arranging confidentiality into any future contracts.