To not want to see my unvaxxed family while 9 weeks pregnant?

[Clementine21]

Hi all,
So I'm 9 weeks pregnant and am worried about seeing family members who have refused or haven't had the jab. I am double vaxxed as is my DH and all my siblings are too. I have a BIL who refuses to get the covid jab. He said he's been told by drs that it will effect his medication he is on now and doesn't want to risk it. He's usually good, always washes his hands, takes the lateral test. His wife is jabbed too. I also have 3 nieces 13, 12 & 9 who haven't had the jab yet.
My worry is catching covid and passing it to my baby. I work too, so potentially I could catch it from work and pass it but my worry is being around people who I know haven't had the jab. Maybe I'm overthinking this?

We were planning to go to BILs for Christmas and SILs parents were coming from abroad too but now I feel like not wanting to go. AIBU?

You're not being unreasonable in the sense you should only do what makes you comfortable. However, if you're double jabbed and he's being sensible (and people do lft before Christmas gathering), I think you'll be okay.

COVID mainly causes issues in the third trimester due to decreased lung space! Where you are in your pregnancy you'd likely be absolutely fine. It's impossible to reduce risk completely (eg you're still going to work). If you're otherwise healthy and have no concerns with the pregnancy I'd go ahead and see them but just ask for lft and keep distance/ places ventilated.

Ive looked after too many women in the last 18 months who have had miscarriages because they caught covid. Personally and professionally. There aren't words to describe the torture of having to wake someone up from sedation and tell them the baby didn't make it. Or telling a husband that his baby is ok but his wife died. I really wish people would think a bit more about the consequences of their choices and make them based on that.

Your body, your pregnancy, your responsibility to keep you both safe. Whatever you decide nobody can blame you.

Thank you for your replies. I think I'll avoid going, its just not worth it incase I were to catch it n pass it on