Sharing bed with DP really stressing me out

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Im going through a stressful time lately and finding it even more stressful to share a bed with DP. The bed doesn't feel big enough and I'm sick of fending off (gentle) advances. I just want to go to fucking sleep and spread out without being touched. It annoys me that he cant seem to affectionate without it inevitably leading to something more sexual. Are a lot of guys like this?

Right now I honestly find the uncomfortable couch comfier but then I have to deal with feeling guilty that we arent having enough sex (he doesn't make me feel guilty but I feel that way).

Is this normal when stressed?! Can anyone relate?

Sounds familiar...

I imagine many women can relate.

The only way you'll get through this is with communication. If you want affection without a sexual advance you need to tell him. Let him know that when you are ready again you will instigate it.
Are you coping with your mental health? If he is a good partner he will help you, so don't shut him out.

I could have written this
No advice sorry.

Separate bedrooms. Bliss.

Yabu to feel guilty.

If you talk to him about this and he still pesters, he's a bit of a twat.

However just wondering, could sex help your stress? Only if it is good sex I guess, but it might help you sleep! Don't do anything you don't want though, everyone is different with stress.

Im the same. Superking bed with eye mask ear plugs and meditation in head phones. I hold his hand in the night and tell him ill feel better when less stressed and we can have sex then.

I think the problem is him only showing affection in the hopes it will lead to sex.
DH spoons me for 20 minutes every night before we fall asleep while we (mainly me) talk about the day, when we're both settled we move into comfier positions but he'll usually keep a hand on my back, bum or leg. I like it and thinks its really loving and makes me feel secure.
But I also know he does it because he likes to feel close to me, not just in the hopes of a shag.
We have a 2yo and 4yo and have sex about once a week and have been together 12 years.

Now, if I knew every time he touched me it was just because he wanted to cum and I didn't get any affection in between I dont think it would feel quite so loving.

Is this a relatively new relationship? Dh and I have been together over 15 years and we barely touch when we sleep- it doesn’t impact on our sex life at all as we make time for that before bed but we see bed as sleep! In the beginning of our relationship we were more amorous but we couldn’t keep that up long term, it would drive me mad to go to bed and have someone all over me! I think you just have to spell it out to him how you feel.