To ask what age you should cover up?

[conceptionisdraining]

This isn't about what you think about others flashing skin, it's more a question about you personally - what age do you start to feel mini skirts and cleavage are inappropriate for you personally?

When I was younger I'd wear so much skin baring clothing (in many cases too much skin for sure!), nowadays I do still bare some skin but am much more conservative, and feel awkward in short skirts for a variety of reasons (not even mini just shortish ones)

What age did you start to feel age crept into your clothing choices?

[5128gap]

[quote conceptionisdraining]@5128gap completely agree. There is societal pressure to dress codes whether we like it or not as we age.

Part of me gets it another part of me doesn't.

When I say I get it, I mean (and shoot me down sure) it's really hard not to judge when someone is wearing tacky looking clothing past 30. In a sense of - we expect the mind to mature to a level where it doesn't need/want that sort of attention.

I'm just being honest, perhaps not very PC but I think many people feel this way. [/quote]
Exactly. There seems to be two reactions to revealing clothes on older women. The sexist/agist cover up your ugly old body one, or the 'enlightened' well of course you can wear what you like, but I would have thought you'd grown out of wanting to appeal to the male gaze one. Both are saying that there is an age when we think women should cover up.

[Tam20779]

I have always been a jeans and T-shirt girl even when I was younger. It’s just how I felt more comfortable. My husband likes me wearing short skirts and tights but since lockdown I’ve put on some weight so they don’t fit me anymore. I’m sure if I lose it I might start wearing them again but we shall see.

[sofato5miles]

Tacky clothes?? I go back to first comment - this is a deeply depressing thread.

[Lifewith]

@sofato5miles

Tacky clothes?? I go back to first comment - this is a deeply depressing thread.

I agree. Shows up how women are viewed. These judgments are in women too, not just men. I've seen it on several threads now. How women 'should' behave

Society seems threatened somehow by women that dress how they want, date how they want and basically live their lives how they want.

If you're at certain age and wearing revealing clothing you're wanting attention, if you're single you must want to find a man and settle (Not every woman does, shock horror)
The list goes on

And other women say I just don't understand it. So? So what. Live your life

[StarlightLady]

@Lifewith 🥰 💐 I think l love you!

[5128gap]

@sofato5miles

Tacky clothes?? I go back to first comment - this is a deeply depressing thread.

This thread is actually very mild by comparison to many others. I often read the age related threads and the vast majority tend to include posts that range from patronising to down right cruel. There seems so much fear and repulsion around female aging. Women who hate their own agjng bodies projecting that onto others and younger women othering older ones, to stave off their own fear of the future.

[SVRT19674]

I think you should trust the mirror. I only wear shorter skirts with tights now. I have really long legs, but in the last couple of years my skin isn´t so taught (I´m 47). I never was a cleavage girl as i sported GG cups so did all I could to hide the fact, hated it.

[5128gap]

@oneofthefew

Fewer would wear what they like if what they liked was booty shorts and a cropped top.

I think I may be one of the few, when appropriate.

I’m 47.

You look amazing and I bet you'd be hard pushed to find anyone who'd say otherwise. But....your body looks like that of a woman in her 20s. The reaction to an older woman who showed more signs of age than you do would be likely to be different. Especially if in a club or pub rather than a beach where we're 'allowed to show more.

[fellrunner85]

Fewer would wear what they like if what they liked was booty shorts and a cropped top

Size has a lot to do with it, too. I'm late 30s and happily go out in crop tops when it's hot, but nobody looks at me. I would guess it's because I'm thin (not "sexy" thin either, more "runs too many marathons" thin), not very pretty, and therefore sort of invisible. Depressingly, if I was bigger, I think the sexist and ageist comments would increase.

[moirarosebabay]

@Anordinarymum

I am 66 and have a cracking pair of legs. I would wear a mini with thick tights no problem and if on holiday abroad do not mind baring the legs a bit.

I cover my upper arms up these days. I positively dislike cleavage. I have a large chest and hate it.

Good for you I'm 44 and run every day and still wear mini skirts

[Lokdok]

Such a sad thread. So much internalised misogyny!!

[Maggie178]

I'm 36 I pretty much live in jeans and tshirts. If I'm going out for drinks or a meal I love to get dressed up. It's a nice change. I'd wear what I felt confident in. Look at Madonna she still looks amazing in her sixtys

[Misty78]

Wear what the hell you want when you want!! We're a long time dead, if you like it wear it and sod everyone else

[GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing]

I think it’s when you stop feeling comfortable

I’ve probably gradually reduced, from being happy to wander about in a petticoat as a teeenager, to being 43 now and pretty conservative/ covered up.

But in my 30s I’d still wear a shortish skirt with tights, or a camisole type top in the evening