Do I raise this with the school and if so, how?

[SENmummy73848]

I have just noticed on DD (5) after bathing, that she has quite a large bruise on the underside of the top of her arm (underside of bicep).

I have no idea where it came on (she has autism and no danger awareness and probably has more bruises than other children because of this) but because of the area in which it is I think it is less likely to be a case of her falling over or bumping herself.

We have been with family all weekend, and I haven’t seen her injure herself in anyway.

Should I raise it with the class teacher or does that look suspicious or like I’m trying to hide something?!

I know it sounds stupid but it’s always something that worries me because DD often does have a lot of bruising because of throwing herself to the floor in meltdowns, and I already feel that the school judge me a lot (Sen school) because I’m young, single and her father has a history of domestic violence (separated now).

Equally, I don’t want the school to think I’m accusing them, so if I do raise it with them (they are probably going to spot it like I have) how should I ask without it coming across confrontational?

I would ask that you want to rule out injury before asking GP for advise on unexplained bruising, and you wanted to check before making an appointment.

They won't think you're accusing them OP, you're just looking out for your DD, don't overthink and just be honest about why you want to know

Far better for you to bring it to the attention of the school before they notice it and raise it with you.

I did email the teacher about it - just explaining that DD has been under the doctor was unexplained/excessive bruising before and they said she would need a blood test if it started happening again (which is all true) so I was worried and wanted to know if she had hurt herself in school - is this okay do you think? X

Under the doctor before**

Op, That's a perfectly reasonable and non accusatory email .spot on.
All the best.

I completely understand this. I have two children with Asd and I was always extremely worried about any marks or injuries. I couldn't always explain them because they couldn't tell me how they got them. They also behaved like young children so constantly had more bruises than children of their age.

I used to simply note it in my kids' class book in a factual way. e.g ds has a bruise on his arm. I don't know how this happened. If anything happened in school, please let me know.
Sometimes, school would come back and say oh this happened or it might be that. Sometimes they didn't know either. I think if it's big or particularly noticeable, it is probably worth noting it yourself.