AIBU about hating my job

[Welllockmedown]

I'm 27 and a single momma to a LG aged 3. When the pandemic first started, I was let go from the best job I've ever had, they happily worked around me and my child care, were understanding and just generally amazing. But they were a small business and sadly didn't survive the lockdowns.

During that time, I applied like crazy for another job and kept getting rejected because I'm not flexible. I share custody of LG with her father and he works Thursday through to Sunday so I cannot work those days. We have limited help from family as my mum works full time and his dad is disabled. Sadly, my dad and his mum are in heaven.

In the end, I landed a 1 day a week job, not brilliant but it was a start. The problem is the manager is very blunt and comes across quite mean and nasty. The job is pretty full on and I'm not allowed breaks to eat so i don't take a lunch with me. If I try to take 5 minutes or I've done something not quite right, I get moaned at or made to feel really small/dumb.

For the past 3 weeks, I've been off battling a chest infection/flu. I've been so poorly and my strength and breathing is no longer what it was. I'm due to go back to work and I'm dreading it. My mental health has plummeted because of this job and the manager.

AIBU for feeling like quitting and finding a better job?

I'm sorry for these things that have happened to you but you'd be better of looking for another job instead of posting on here.

Not allowing a break is illegal. Go to an employment agency, or something like Indeed Flex. Is there an Amazon warehouse near you? There must be places looking for employees for 3 days a week.

How long is your working day, you are entitled to a 20 minute break minimum if over 6 hours. You might be better doing fewer hours on more days. Definitely keep looking. How old is your dd?

I work from 8:30am till 5pm and DD is 3

So you could put her in childcare when ex is working, using Early Years funding, to increase your availability? Legally you should take your break.

Why don't you just put her in nursery and work full time? It would only be 2 days per week which would cost around £90 per month using the 30 free hours.

@BluebellsareBlue

I'm sorry for these things that have happened to you but you'd be better of looking for another job instead of posting on here.

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Life's too short to be unhappy, work your notice and then concentrate on finding something you like and enjoy your little girl while she's young. Your MH is more important so you can take care of your dd and you can earn some money.

What about work in a school kitchen, lunchtime assistant or school cleaner? Fairly low stress in the grand scheme but get job satisfaction and decent hours

Or, How about signing on with a temp agency?

You can claim 30 "free" hours now so why not be more flexible with the days you can do?

You're working one day a week and you're stressing it's too hard? Try working full time with a kid in nursery. I'd love to work one shit day a week instead of five. FFS.

DD is already in nursery, has been since last September. UC are no help as they claim me to be the childcare so won't offer the 30 hours to me. My ex pays for her nursery as I couldn't afford it. I already claim the 15 hours for her. She's in nursery the 3 days I could work. Hense why I'm actively seeking. But I'm getting next to nowhere

@gukvguk

You're working one day a week and you're stressing it's too hard? Try working full time with a kid in nursery. I'd love to work one shit day a week instead of five. FFS.

Don't reply if you're not going to be kind. Good for you for working 5 days a week, I would love that, I already hate feeling like a useless member of society so thank you so much for making me feel worse!!

UC childcare is different to the Early Years funding for 30 hours for all 3 and 4 year olds. It is term-time, or can be split over 52 weeks, and starts the term after 3rd birthday.

@Welllockmedown

DD is already in nursery, has been since last September. UC are no help as they claim me to be the childcare so won't offer the 30 hours to me. My ex pays for her nursery as I couldn't afford it. I already claim the 15 hours for her. She's in nursery the 3 days I could work. Hense why I'm actively seeking. But I'm getting next to nowhere

But if you had a full time job (or more than 16 hours a week I think is the rule) then you could claim the 30 hours no?

What does your ex do Monday to Thursday?

@TotallySuper

What does your ex do Monday to Thursday?

Basically goes and collects her from nursery nursery has his agreed time with her. And yes that's what I'm trying to do. I want to work full time, I'm actively seeking to do that to get my life back on track. Then I can claim the 30 hours, sort her hours out at nursery and won't keep having the struggles that are currently happening

But that makes no sense. Why can't he have her Mon to Thursday initially with nursery on Thursdays and fridays so you can get a better job, then you can claim the 30 free hours. Sorted.