To be absolutely sick of DD talking online to her friends all the time

[Nevermindthefurball]

I feel like I have extra people in the house the whole time. She even did flute practice just now and they were still there. I WFH in my bedroom at the moment so it brings it home that it just doesn’t stop from the moment she gets through the door from school and continues all evening. She’s revising for exams at the moment and I know it helps to work together but it’s every single day. When my other DC goes to speak to her she sends out an abruptly “what do you want?” because she views this has intruding on her and her friends. It’s. All. The. Fucking. Time.

It can be annoying, but it is typical teen behaviour.
It is much better for them to have friends and the social support than to be friendless or bullied.
We have dinner together every night and have a no devices rule. That was a good hour break.

Honestly given the number of posts I read where kids & teens are struggling socially and don't have many friends, I'd try to just accept it as normal part of teen life. But you could perhaps set a time when phone is switched off completely for the night.

Yeah I understand. DS insists on doing a Group FaceTime with friends to play Xbox which just means there a 4 young teens fog horning away in my house.
I bite my tongue though and tell myself that it’s a good thing he has a social network.

I'd make sure you have dinner together and have a no devices at bedtime rule but other than that I'd let her get on with it. Except being rude to her sibling obviously.

She comes down to eat, 15 minutes then bolts upstairs at the moment. She and DC2 used to cook dinner for us all one evening a week but she started complaining and it stopped (when they started they looked ri be having fun together which was may I got them doing it).

In don't know OP, I get that it must be annoying and feel intrusive, but unless you have any concerns that these friendships are unhealthy I would honestly be counting my blessings that my DC was so actively engaged with their friends. Trust me, me silence of a teen's phone that stops ringing is 100 times more distressing.

I don’t know, she’s stopped actively participating in family life and doesn’t participate in any helpful way either.

Is not helped by my working from home. I would like to see my DD properly at some point but we get few minutes when she deigns to join us to eat then fucks off again. She’s 15.

13yo DD exactly the same. You have my sympathies

@Nevermindthefurball

Is not helped by my working from home. I would like to see my DD properly at some point but we get few minutes when she deigns to join us to eat then fucks off again. She’s 15.

Sorry but it’s pretty normal that they start to do less and less with you at that age. I think it’s part of natural process of developing emotional independence from parents in preparation for going forth to University or out into the world of work to be an adult. I left home at 17, never went back. Your DD is only a few years away from that.

Yes, I pretty much did the same. I did engage with the rest of the house at some point each evening. I also had jobs to do which I need to introduce into DDs routine which would also help feel like she is actually contributing - otherwise she’ll leave home with bugger all basic skills.

Then time to agree some chores with her so she’s contributing to family life, which I agree is important.

As pp have said, it’s good she’s got these friends though and that they’ll even listen to her flute practice

Cut the wifi :) chores first (and perhaps being social to you) Then wifi :)

I’m with you on this, my DD walks around the house always on the phone, in the kitchen, in the bathroom, I lie in bed and I can hear her, it does my head in. As you say it feels like someone else is always in the house!

Typical teen behaviour, I agree with those saying count your blessings.

Our generation did this too, just in different ways. I remember spending hours on the phone to my friends in the evening after talking to them all day.