AIBU or is my future employer?

[pcofmushu]

I have been offered a fantastic new job that I have accepted, however I have said that I cannot start until after XXXX as I am currently in the process of buying a house and the mortgage advisor informs me that changing jobs during an application is not ideal. (We have the formal mortgage offer, just waiting to move in).

New employer says they feel "let down" that I cannot start any sooner. I maintain that I cannot scupper my chances when we are so close to moving in.

Thoughts? AIBU to not take the risk (and ultimately follow the financial advisor's advice!), or should I be accommodating the desires of the new job?

Well this is two completely different stories now - what happened between Friday when you were struggling to hand in your notice to your existing employer and the new company didn't want you until Feb/March and Monday when apparently you can't hand in your notice because of a mortgage application but new company are now pressuring you to start in January?! At best I think you are conflicted about the new role and trying to buy yourself time but to the new company you are most likely coming across as flaky and uncommitted.

@pastabest

On the face of it you aren't being unreasonable if it's a professional role and typical notice periods are 1month+ anyway.

You are being unreasonable if the job is 'Christmas Elf' or similar.

😂

Have you given the new employer a date?

Just give them a date, the latest you think that it will be.

And don't mention the house again

@Batfinkwings

I wouldn't have thought it would affect your mortgage. I was made redundant a month before DH and I moved into our first home. By then all of the checks on payslips etc had been done so I just didn't mention it to the mortgage provider.

Your potential new employer is being a bit OTT over a matter of a week or a few days.
If you have a months notice then you wouldn't be able to start until a couple of days before Christmas anyway, I don't see why waiting for you to move house, then starting you just after Christmas would be so bad.

Technically you committed mortgage fraud. When you signed your mortgage agreement one of the terms you agreed to was to notify your lender of any material change in circumstances which you then failed to do.