to wonder how people socialise this much

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Friends of DP (in their 60s like us) have a social whirlwind, staying with other couples all over the country, for days at a time, as well as going away on holiday a lot to their own properties.

I hate staying anywhere other than my own bed and can't imagine sleeping in someone else's house unless they were very, very close friends.

I find it hard to sleep in strange beds, let alone with another couple in their home.

I guess I'm a bit odd, but wondered if anyone else is like me.

I agree, everyone comes to me

My mum and dad were/are like this, more so since retirement and having the time. They also set off in the car with no accommodation or destination in mind, and always manage to find a B&B somewhere.

I am the opposite.

I hate staying anywhere other than my own bed and can't imagine sleeping in someone else's house unless they were very, very close friends.

Well, I think that's pretty unusual, to be fair. So you don't even like hotels or AirBnbs, it's not just staying with other people?

I'm only 29 and wouldn't be able to deal with that much socializing haha. I do love hanging out with my friends but I need a lot of time to myself afterwards, and I'm never very sad if people cancel plans.

I hate staying in anyone's house other than my mother's. It makes me feel really awkward and I can't relax at all. I don't mind having someone come stay at mine for one night but visits longer than that I find very hard.

@Theplantisgrowing

I agree, everyone comes to me

Yes but if everyone comes to you then surely you must be aware that you are in the minority for not feeling comfortable staying away from home?

So you don't even like hotels or AirBnbs, it's not just staying with other people?

I mean sleeping in the same house as the owners who might not want to go to bed when I do, get up at the same time, etc. I am also a light sleeper and find it hard to sleep in any bed that's too soft or if the room isn't dark.

Yes I can cope for a night but it's not something I'd choose to do.

I don't like the 'intimacy' of sleeping in someone else's home unless they are family or really close friends (but there is no need to do that.)

I wonder if it's an age thing as I could crash out anywhere in my 20s and 30s.

I hate staying anywhere other than my own bed and can't imagine sleeping in someone else's house unless they were very, very close friends.

^I find this odd

I'm not keen on staying in other people's houses....but I think that's because I have small children. I don't think I was like this before. It puts me on edge a bit, staying with other people with little ones. Unless the other family have little ones too.

My mum and her husband are in their 70s and are like this and have loads of friends they visit or go away with.

I am more than happy to go weekends away, air bnb etc, but the issue is I don't have that many friends 🤣🤣

I agree it's odd @drpet49! But are you my age? If not, it may well be an age thing.

I'm really sensitive to my sleep surroundings and find it hard to settle in a different room or bed.

I actually don't know any couples my age who happily visit ad stay with other couples on a regular basis.

I think a LOT depends on the size of the house too. I guess these people I know of visit friends with huge houses, where they all have en suites, the rooms are well away from each other and you don't overhear anyone snoring or worse.

My OH and I are in our early 60s - early retired! We go away whenever we can. This year we've been to Greece twice, up to Scotland, to Oxford, Lancashire, Sheffield and after Christmas we're back up to Scotland for New Year.

Even when we're here we're out and about - to the theatre, up to London to climb the O2, up to Cambridge for the day recently.

For next year I've already booked a train tour of northern Italy, 2 weeks in Greece and 3 weeks in Canada. We love to be away and out and about doing stuff!

I can’t think of anything worse than staying at someone else’s house, other than people staying at ours of course!

We are in our 60s and go away every 3-4 weeks, usually to a hotel . I'm not keen on other people's houses ...need my own bathroom and space. We do have 2 couples we like staying with due to space and the fact that we do our own thing.

@30whatacrock

I can’t think of anything worse than staying at someone else’s house, other than people staying at ours of course!

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@99victoria

My OH and I are in our early 60s - early retired! We go away whenever we can. This year we've been to Greece twice, up to Scotland, to Oxford, Lancashire, Sheffield and after Christmas we're back up to Scotland for New Year.

Even when we're here we're out and about - to the theatre, up to London to climb the O2, up to Cambridge for the day recently.

For next year I've already booked a train tour of northern Italy, 2 weeks in Greece and 3 weeks in Canada. We love to be away and out and about doing stuff!

Exhausted just reading this.

What do you like doing when away?

It was more about staying in friends' houses though not hotels.

I'm 62, husband 63. He works full-time, I don't work at the moment (recovering from Covid and a stroke) so we can't afford to socialise much - certainly can't afford a holiday. But you know what, after the past few horrible months, I don't care, I'm just glad to be with family, at home, going out for meals (we did that yesterday) and enjoying as much as possible.

I hate staying in other peoples houses, and I'm not keen on people staying in mine. We tolerate it for a couple of family members.

Hate getting up in the morning with other people about.

We love staying in hotels though.