AIBU to think it is not fair on the older child of the younger child blows out their birthday candles??

Catlovermumof1 · 2021-11-22T14:41:10+00:00

I have just stumbled upon a video of a famous YouTube family 'Norris Nuts' and in the video it is the older siblings birthday Nas I think her name is and her younger sibling (Disco) is blowing out the candles for her birthday cake. In the video she says 'that's my cake' and is quite upset. AIBU to make sure in the future my children will blow out their own candles and nobody else's unless invited to! *Disclaimer in all honesty I hope we don't go back to blowing out candles cause after Covid the thought of eating cake somebody has blew a*ll *over turns my stomach but the above is just for arguments sake*

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Catlovermumof1 · 22/11/2021 14:41

The video for reference

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Samcro · 22/11/2021 14:42

they called their child disco??

SisterAgatha · 22/11/2021 14:43

My sister in law turned up at my birthday venue on my 40th birthday (because like a fool I told her where I had booked). With a cake for herself that said 40, had her friends sing happy birthday to her and blew out the candles. Posted the pics on Fb and had people wish her happy birthday.

And it wasn’t her birthday.

So I am 100% with you here. I wish I’d asked her if she wanted to open my presents too 🤣

Santaischeckinglists · 22/11/2021 14:45

Can't understand dps who don't allow a dc one day to be about just them.

HoldmecloseTonyDanza · 22/11/2021 14:47

@SisterAgatha

My sister in law turned up at my birthday venue on my 40th birthday (because like a fool I told her where I had booked). With a cake for herself that said 40, had her friends sing happy birthday to her and blew out the candles. Posted the pics on Fb and had people wish her happy birthday.

And it wasn’t her birthday.

So I am 100% with you here. I wish I’d asked her if she wanted to open my presents too 🤣

What?? That's so bizarre😵😵 I presume there's a back story?

SisterAgatha · 22/11/2021 14:48

No. She’s just a very strange and I suspect not well person x

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Catlovermumof1 · 22/11/2021 14:50

@Samcro

they called their child disco??

Yes, maybe they had Saturday night fever🙈

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SparrowNest · 22/11/2021 14:51

@SisterAgatha

My sister in law turned up at my birthday venue on my 40th birthday (because like a fool I told her where I had booked). With a cake for herself that said 40, had her friends sing happy birthday to her and blew out the candles. Posted the pics on Fb and had people wish her happy birthday.

And it wasn’t her birthday.

So I am 100% with you here. I wish I’d asked her if she wanted to open my presents too 🤣

Can you give any more detail or background on this? Was it close to her birthday? Have you had issues with before? It’s just such a mad and inexplicable thing to do on the face of it.

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Catlovermumof1 · 22/11/2021 14:53

@SisterAgatha

My sister in law turned up at my birthday venue on my 40th birthday (because like a fool I told her where I had booked). With a cake for herself that said 40, had her friends sing happy birthday to her and blew out the candles. Posted the pics on Fb and had people wish her happy birthday.

And it wasn’t her birthday.

So I am 100% with you here. I wish I’d asked her if she wanted to open my presents too 🤣

Omg that's really not nice :( sorry you had to go through that x

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Sweetchocolatecandy · 22/11/2021 14:55

I agree, I think favouritism directed towards the younger children goes on in a lot of families. I remember my younger brother getting presents bought for him when it was my birthday so he didn’t feel ‘left out’. It happens with my nieces as well and I just don’t think it’s right at all.

SisterAgatha · 22/11/2021 14:56

Her birthday was the month before, she had already had almost two weeks of celebrations and seen all the people that went there that day. She didn’t even know about the place until I mentioned I was booking it. She just chose to have more, at the same place at me, on the same day and blow out another cake on my birthday. She is like this with a lot of people 🤣

2020isnotbehaving · 22/11/2021 14:58

No way! Rules are you blow out own candles if you are feeling generous you light them again so younger siblings can have a turn if they are to young understand it’s not their day without screaming

SisterAgatha · 22/11/2021 15:01

Catlovermumof1

Thanks. My mum actually said to her straight, why did you go to the same place as Agatha on her birthday??

She just said it’s funny isn’t it, that’s just how it worked out. Well not really, you’ve known what day your own birthday is for the last 40 years, surely 🤣

HerRoyalWitchyness · 22/11/2021 15:01

I never do this with my children. Their birthday is the one day they have where it's all about them (obviously within reason) so they get to blow out their own candles, open their own presents, choose what we eat, what goes on the TV, music etc. The other children just have to let them because they get the same on their birthday

MrsMadderRose · 22/11/2021 15:01

Ooh it's not on, I would never let any child but the birthday child blow out their own candles!

DD has a friend who can be a bit of a handful and when they were younger this friend was a demon for running up and blowing out the candles first. I learned to see her coming and block her path :o

I do do a mini present for the non-birthday sibling but that goes for both of them, it's not just the younger one.

AudacityBaby · 22/11/2021 15:19

It's not fair, but really common if you have a tantrum-prone younger sibling. /speaking from experience