AIBU to consider going to this wedding?

[MollieMaeve]

A very close friend is getting married on Friday. DS6 has just tested positive for Covid. LFTs on myself, DH and DD7 are negative.

I know the official rules are that the rest of us can carry on as normal unless we test positive but would it be irresponsible to go? We would do LFTs every day to check and potentially have a PCR on Thursday (we can get them as close contacts of a confirmed case).

Potentially relevant info: DH and I are double vaccinated. I know 75% of guests going to the wedding and all the ones I know are double vaccinated.

Think I may be worrying too much but wanted a consensus!

Ask the bride & groom what they are comfortable with. I had a similar scenario few weeks and I just asked them if they wanted me to attend or not.

In Ireland you would quarantine for 5 days and test on day 1 day 3 and day5 before being considered clear,
Personally on day 3 I would do a PCR incase you are asymptomatic and only go to the wedding if the couple are happy with the tests you have taken

Technically you are allowed to go, morally I wouldn’t. You know you’re a close contact of a positive case, you should be limiting social contact wherever possible.

I’m not sure I’d ask the B&G. They might feel obliged to say yes. I think you should make your own decision based on the results.

Who is going to mind your covid positive child?

I'm due to attend a wedding this weekend. We are doing our tests nearer to the wedding (to be vigilant) and there's no way I'd knowingly take a child or attend with someone in the household being ill.

We are possibly not in the same country but as a household close contact you shouldn't rely on the LFT anyway, get a PCR ASAP. (We have to isolate until negative PCR received regardless of vaccination status, LFT irrelevant, don't you?). Then take another PCR (you can get private with a quick turnaround) as close to the actual wedding as possible.

Full disclosure to the bride and groom ASAP too so they can discuss and say yes or no. Needs to be their decision - it's not fair not to disclose this as they will know if they have vulnerable guests or even if they don't want to take the risk for themselves and honeymoon travel etc. Don't leave it to the day before, ask now what they think.

May re-read the guidance too, it doesn’t say “carry on as normal”!

No I won’t. Aren’t government guidelines that household members should go to work/education but avoid social activities?

*would’nt

Get a pcr test - lateral flows not sensitive enough and ask the bride and groom how they feel. But your child is 6 - does this mean you won't be in contact with them from now on? If you are going to be in contact with them - despite having a test on a thursday - if you see them Thursday you could pick it up then. Also who will agree to look after them while you are at the wedding?

The guidelines also say other household members should have a PCR test.

I would ask the Bride & Groom personally as long as the PCR is negative. Put the ball in their court.

Thanks for all opinions. We actually have PCRs due tomorrow as part of a research study we are in as a family so will have two before Friday. Will speak to the couple (everyone has assumed it’s a bride and groom but it’s a groom and groom!) - we are close enough that they wouldn’t feel they had to be polite.

Lots of the guests going are teachers (one of the grooms is a teacher) with numerous positive cases in their classes so they have been getting a lot of people checking.

@Wheelerdeeler Our children were never coming and my brother currently lives with us so he would mind them

We had a guy come to our wedding whose whole family was positive and had avoided it. Similarly we caught Covid recently- way after the wedding and DD was still invited to a party she was going to as long as she had negative lft and pcr and the mum picked her up as obviously we couldn't take her. I'd be fine with it but I would check with bride and groom.

Sorry didn't see you said it was groom and groom 🤦🏻‍♀️

I really wouldn't go to a large social occasion if someone was positive in my house. Its extremely irresponsible.

If someone in your household is self isolating and you are double vaxed the advice is

-limit close contact with other people outside your household, especially in crowded or enclosed spaces – consider taking an LFD test beforehand if you do need to be in close contact with others

-wear a face covering in enclosed spaces and where you are unable to maintain social distancing

-limit contact with anyone who has an underlying health condition that puts them at higher risk of severe illness if infected with COVID-19 – consider taking an LFD test beforehand if you do need to meet with them

This advice applies while the person in your household with COVID-19 is self-isolating