To ask how many big irresolvable problems...

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... you have in your life at the moment? Ones you've had for a while and just don't know how to solve.
I have three significant ones.
It looks like everyone else breezes through life without big irresolvable issues plaguing them but perhaps that's just how it seems on the surface?

I don’t have any. Genuinely. As an adult, I’ve only had one problem that was unsolvable, and that was when my late mother was terminally ill. It was the worst time of my life. I can’t imagine what it must be like to juggle several problems, day in day out, you must all be made of stronger stuff than I am. I’ve had money problems in the past and they were solvable and thankfully a thing of the past. I intentionally only allow a small amount of people into my simple life. Health is good, marriage is long and good, children's health and mental health is good. I could imagine if any of these ever changed it’d turn my life upside down though.

And before anyone accuses me of being ignorant to any problems I may have in my life, genuinely there aren’t any. I actually feel horribly guilty after reading this, that the biggest (insignificant) problem in my life right now is that we haven’t seen family extended family for almost 3 years due to the pandemic and is living overseas. That’s nothing.

Big ones at the mo for me:
-FIL’s declining health, he’s heading downhill fast - impact on OH, DD and us as a family, plus worries about MIL
-OH’s chronic health condition, current flare up.
-Work is crap, 3/7 of my immediate team have handed their notices in

Not as big
-DD’s school for next year -complex situation
-DPony needs an op at some point in the future, this will become a bigger worry nearer the time
-OH works away a fair bit, I worry about his health, I also worry as he had a heart attack last year (cardiology stuff currently ok though). I struggle juggling DD, work, house stuff and supporting MIL and FIL while he’s away

On the surface, I’m a bit of a swan, deep down I’m paddling like hell. People probably think I’m the luckiest person in the world, as I’m quite private
I have therapy every 2 weeks to talk through the above, plus historical stuff (childhood trauma that I carry around)

Yup! At least 3 major ones if I lump a few into one big one. It took me a long time to recognise them for what they are. Since then I've learnt I can't fight them, I have to accept, and mitigate where I can. Time will sort most of it out by there will be some bumps.

@Aussiegirl123456

I don’t have any. Genuinely. As an adult, I’ve only had one problem that was unsolvable, and that was when my late mother was terminally ill. It was the worst time of my life. I can’t imagine what it must be like to juggle several problems, day in day out, you must all be made of stronger stuff than I am. I’ve had money problems in the past and they were solvable and thankfully a thing of the past. I intentionally only allow a small amount of people into my simple life. Health is good, marriage is long and good, children's health and mental health is good. I could imagine if any of these ever changed it’d turn my life upside down though.

And before anyone accuses me of being ignorant to any problems I may have in my life, genuinely there aren’t any. I actually feel horribly guilty after reading this, that the biggest (insignificant) problem in my life right now is that we haven’t seen family extended family for almost 3 years due to the pandemic and is living overseas. That’s nothing.

Lady!! Feel no guilt! Enjoy your life!! Your post has been lovely to read, it's the hope that my children will grow up to have a nice life without all the paddling that goes on in mine!

I don't have any unsolvable problems tbh. I have some ongoing minor worries, but that's it really.

I have two big problems that I personally cannot do anything about. So I cope with them by trying not to think about them.
This means that anyone meeting me would think I was bright and cheery without a care in the world.
What else can you realistically do other than unnecessarily burden other people with your worries?

On the face of it you'd think I was a very together person with no real issues.

I have shot mental health that no amount of drugs/therapy/CBD/acupuncture/smelling salts and whatever else you throw at it will fix.

I'm up to my eyeballs every month in debt that I struggle to pay back & wont be able to pay back for a couple of years yet.

They both have huge impacts on my life but talking about them doesn't really help, and won't solve anything so I just have to get on with it and act normal.

Until about six months ago - none really.

Now - child with diagnosed serious MH issue.

I look back on our life before and wonder WTF was I doing worrying about the small stuff.