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May I rant about my 'D'H, please? (yes IPABU, but I need to vent!)

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lovecattlearelowing · 15/12/2007 09:01

Thursday night, DH says to me 'oh, I've got nothing to wear for the office Christmas party tomorrow, can you go and get me something? I need shirt, trousers, shoes.'

I actually have a full day already planned, tried to explain this, vis:

DD gets up at 7.30amish, we have a leisurely brekkie, bath, get dressed, tends to take us til about 9am to get organised.

At 9.45am we go to the PILs to drop off birthday and Christmas presents, as it's the only chance we'll have to see them before New year and DD adores her granny/grandad so I don't see why she should miss out for the sake of DH's shopping requirements.

11.45am is Tumbletots, it's the last class before Christmas, DD loves it, similarly I don't want her to miss out.

This would give us between 1pm and 2pm for lunch, as I had already agreed with DD's best friend's mum that we would have a play date in the afternoon - she lives a 20min drive away (in good traffic).

I had also apparently agreed (although I have no real recollection of this other than the precedent of having done it last year) to give DH a lift to his Christmas do, so needed to be home by 5.30pm in order to feed DD before setting off out again. As the A13 at this time of the year is hell on wheels, I knew I would need to leave hers at 4.45 at the latest.

So... Friday 8.30am finds me in the local Tesco megabarn, dragging an unbathed, hastily-dressed and breakfasted DD around Florence and Fred to buy DH's sodding outfit.

I get stuck in traffic on the A13 and arrive home at 6pm to be greeted with 'ooh, this shirt and trousers are really thick, I'm going to be really hot'

I drive DH to the office do, picking up work colleague en-route, to find that he only has the vaguest idea of where she lives and keeps telling me 'you shouldn't have gone down that road' after the event

He tells me he won't be late home because he's feeling sooooo ill (to be fair, he had raging flu last week and is still suffering a bit).

He comes in at 2am and wakes DD up in the process, but I have to go and see to her because he has fallen across the bed and is snoring...

And so to Saturday morning. My one lie-in day of the week. Foolishly, I know, I had anticipated that as he would be home at 'no later than 10' , that I would be getting my lie-in. Instead I get woken at 7.30am by DD and when we go in to see Daddy (he was still sleeping in the spare room because of the flu), I get the wounded martyr 'oh, but it was my party last night, can't I sleep in' routine....

And he wonders why I'm slightly miffed with him? (he did realise he was being an arse and got up, but very huffily, like I'm in the wrong...grrr...)

If you've stuck with it this far, thank you for letting me unload! Now, off to the Frost Fair...

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NumberSix · 15/12/2007 09:06

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NappiesGaloriaInExcelsis · 15/12/2007 09:09

you should have said 'sorry,i dont have time'

then he wouldnt ask you at such short notice again.

lovecattlearelowing · 15/12/2007 09:12

I know, I know, my own stupid fault - I just have this aversion to DH going out the house looking like he's been pulled through a hedge backwards (which he would if left to his own devices) - plus to be fair, he had been v. ill over the weekend when he would have gone out himself - never again!

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lovecattlearelowing · 15/12/2007 09:12

I think I'm more pissed off about not getting my lie in, tbh...

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Bouncingturtle · 15/12/2007 09:14

Yes, what was wrong with what he had in his wardrobe??
Men can be such thoughtless bastards at time, I would chalk it up to experience!
You should defintely insist on a lie in and some "me" time tomorrow!

hoxtonchick · 15/12/2007 09:16

can you have a lie in tomorrow?

helenhismadwife · 15/12/2007 14:32

I would have said no or if pushed bought his white satin trousers and shirt to match or a fancy dress outfut

mimi03 · 15/12/2007 17:58

tell him nxt time u want nothing to to with hois sodding xmas party!

lovecattlearelowing · 15/12/2007 18:07

Oh, Helen, I love that suggestion! And yes, mimi, I am v. tempted to do so. Too soft, I am...

Mind you, got back home from the Frost Fair to find him grovelling because two big footie matches are on telly tomorrow afternoon and he wants to watch them in peace (ie without dd demanding Peppa Pig)... so he is getting up early to take dd to church (ha! it's been so long, I've warned him he may burst into flames on the steps) for me (which is why I don't generally get a Sunday lie-in) and we are then being taken out for an early lunch...

As dd & I were going round to his sisters tomorrow afternoon anyway (not that he knew that), I'm a happy bunny!

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inSanityClaus · 15/12/2007 18:40

Roffle at burst into flames ...

moondog · 15/12/2007 18:43

What on earth are you doing buying clothes for a grown man?????

LazyLinePainterJane · 15/12/2007 20:07

errr....

1.Tell him to buy his own clothes. He can order them online FFS.
2.Tell him to get his arse out of bed.

Yes, he is acting like a numpty but when you let him walk all over you.....

SantasElasticKnickers · 15/12/2007 20:27

i would have said "wear last year/s clothes"
and a lot more!

Elasticwoman · 16/12/2007 20:25

I don't buy clothes for dh as a rule, and on the rare occasions that I have, it's been because I think he needs something, not because he has sent me out to buy them.

Can see why you're cross, and recommend you remember never again to agree to buy him something he needs to choose for himself, and also don't do favours that include car journeys. He should have either gone by public transport, or arranged lift share with a colleague. You and dd had no need to go out and be taxi service.

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