Need some advice

[Pixxie7]

One of my DD is very kind and will essentially do anything for anyone. My bd and Christmas are a month apart and I find it difficult when asked what I want.
Although not hard up she has 2 teenagers as well as doing her house up, so I always try and buy nice presents. However I try to keep my requests to a reasonable price. She has now said that I make her feel mean. So don’t know if I am being unreasonable.

Ask her for a budget next time?

I generally give a list of gifts ranging from something around a fiver up to a diamond tiara! Then they can choose something they know I would like that is within their budget.

My (step) dad always asks what I want, and I always get a list from him. We both always ask for a budget and then list accordingly. He usually does a list of small things that add up to the budget - and I get them all. I usually ask for one bigger thing at the budget and he gets that. Works well for us and no awkwardness, it's routine by now.

I've got everything I need or want (not boasting!) Except out of budget things like an Aston Martin or a mansion! I say to anyone who asks, "flowers or chocs" is quite enough. Tell her you don't want her spending her hard earned cash on you!

As an adult, I wouldn’t dream of making requests for Christmas presents, to me that is something children do. Why not just leave her to her choose something.

@Aprilx

As an adult, I wouldn’t dream of making requests for Christmas presents, to me that is something children do. Why not just leave her to her choose something.

Gosh how judgemental. Some people ask for lists or ideas because they'd prefer to get something truly wanted. Op's daughter clearly asks what she wants - it says so. So why so rude?

My (step) dad always asks for quite the most surprising things, so I'm so glad he will give me a list as they wouldn't occur to me otherwise.

Even better, he always forgets what he's asked for by Christmas Day, so it's like a surprise anyway. I usually get him a small surprise as well.

@Aprilx

As an adult, I wouldn’t dream of making requests for Christmas presents, to me that is something children do. Why not just leave her to her choose something.

Same

In my family we regularly make requests/suggestions as we don’t always know what people would like. My mum asks me for ideas and I ask her for gifts she would like.

I would rather get someone something I know they want and will love than risk getting them something that’s nice but they didn’t need or want.

I don’t see anything wrong with it if everyone is happy to do it.

I have an amazon wishlist with stuff from a couple of quid on it, and my birthday and Christmas are also close together. This means I get what I'd like but isn't going to be too expensive. I'm happy with a tube of oil paint for a fiver!

Thank you for your replies I have tried saying I don’t mind but she would rather know what I want.