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To think the 70s/80s/90s were better?

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alienbaby · 21/11/2021 18:47

Okay, so I was born in 1987 so missed the 70s. But I've always kind of fetishised this decade. It seems like it was a great time to be young. Same with the 80s and 90s. Freedom and opportunities but without the more rigid feel we have now.

It was 2006 when I went off and travelled and started living alone, and it was great because we had the internet of course, but it wasnt as pervasive. It meant there was still a kind of mystery about things, like you still had to engage and improvise whereas now you can just sort things out online ahead of time.

Am I just romanticising or do you think too that in a lot of ways the 70s/80s/90s were kind of a "sweet spot" where we had progress but not so much progress that we felt disconnected?

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CeratopsofthePharoahs · 24/11/2021 16:01

I was born in 1980.
What I remember of the 80s is mostly awful.
90s were better, possibly because I had a bit more freedom. I liked 90s music.
I mention this period of history to my parents and I get comments like "When John Major put interest rates up? We almost couldn't pay the mortgage!"
I actually like having the internet in my pocket. Saves me a lot of time and stress.
Also - trying to imagine going through covid lockdowns with 80s technology? Would have been a heck of a lot worse.

Brainwave89 · 24/11/2021 16:32

So I have lived through the 70s 80s and 90s. As an Asian, it was not at all unusual for us as a family to experience open racism in public in the 70s and 80s. At school, racist comments even from teachers were fairly normal. This has changed for the better. Mrs Thatcher was in power for much of the 1980s which meant large scale unemployment and significant social strife. I loved the music, the depth of friendship I had etc but for me life now is better.

PreparationPreparationPrep · 24/11/2021 17:07

I liked the 70's as although there was racism I was too young to really feel it. I loved the fashion of that era and looking back at the photos of my parents in their 70s fashion. and playing out especially in the summer months where we would be in the park into the evenings. Snow was a given and we looked forward to it every year. Even though we lived an an all white area i only remember a little bit of racism at primary school but not much. I hated the 80s as I was in secondary school by then - skin heads were fashionable and I was called names every single day of my school life. Even walking down the school corridor I would be called the N and W word. Teachers knew But ignored it Looking back The fashion was a bit naff - ra-ra skirts, Neon clothes and pedal pushers, Farahs. After my exams I moved to the town area for work which was more diverse and that's when I started to enjoy my life a bit more, although there was still a lot of racism in the office then.

TomPinch · 24/11/2021 19:24

I reckon people were more securely housed back then. Private renting wasn't as common: people were more likely to have a council house or own their homes. My parents paid off their mortgage with no real effort and 15 years after they bought their house.

DM was a SAHM and while that reflects the sexism of the times, the point remains that between them my parents needed to be in paid work for fewer hours a week to support a large family. DDad worked quite long hours during the week, but neither of them seemed rushed in a way that I feel now. The reason must be in part that they weren't having to pay off a gigantic debt due to inflated house prices or having to pay a landlord.

I remember plenty of grotty housing around in the 80s but I'd argue that most families were in more secure accommodation overall and not having to work all hours to pay for it. That's an enormous advantage that has been lost.

ScrollingLeaves · 24/11/2021 20:23

“TomPinch
DM was a SAHM and while that reflects the sexism of the times, the point remains that between them my parents needed to be in paid work for fewer hours a week to support a large family. DDad worked quite long hours during the week, but neither of them seemed rushed in a way that I feel now. The reason must be in part that they weren't having to pay off a gigantic debt due to inflated house prices or having to pay a landlord.“

I agree that it was far easier to have somewhere to live. It is a major difference between now and then. Now it is so difficult to grow up and have your own home and family.

Also I agree that many mothers were SAHP without that meaning their families would have nowhere to live or hardly be able to eat, even when people were not rich.

It is a mystery.

gofg · 24/11/2021 21:40

I can't think of any major difference in my level of comfort betweeen now and then.

I think this actually proves the point about rose tinted glasses, if you honestly can't think of any major improvements to quality of life in the last 40-50 years.

I didn't say there were no major improvements to quality of life, of course there are, but if you bothered to actually READ my post I said in MY level of comfort - and I still stand by that. Yes, I have the internet and a smartphone now, but I would happily go back to a time without them. Nothing else I have now I didn't have then, but in the 80s I owned my own flat, I now rent. I don't live in the UK and can appreciate things might be different here - maybe we had a better quality of life then? I have been unemployed for three years btw, only being able to secure temporary work at times (I'm not working at the moment). Jobs were so much easier to get in the 70s, and even in the 80s when I was first made redundant I had no trouble getting a job, I didn't even have to find it, they approached me. Also, if we were in the 70s or 80s and I was the age I am now I wouldn't even have to look for a job at 62. My mother got divorced in the 1980s, no-one expected her to find a job, she went on a benefit which no longer exists. I bought a flat by myself in the 1980s - after separating I had no chance of servicing a mortgage on one wage with the house prices rising about the time we separated. Life is not as rosy now as you seem to imagine.

felulageller · 28/11/2021 17:10

My life was much more comfortable then. Like others my parents didn't need to work anywhere near as much or get student loans to get their jobs to live in a bought 3 bed suburban house. Now we are like passing ships in the night, forever juggling just to private rent and buy flats.

The internet just makes people lazier.

JustDanceAddict · 28/11/2021 17:23

I was born in early 70s so am a bit young for that! My best decade was the 90s - end of school, uni, being in my 20s having a great old time socially. The Britpop era was fab.

TheCreamCaker · 30/11/2021 21:13

gofg I left school on a Friday in 1975, started work the following Monday. Wage was £18.56, office work at N.A.A.F.I. Happy days.

dangerrabbit · 30/11/2021 22:55

I am an over 40s gay and disliked these times a lot.

ladywriter1968 · 06/07/2025 22:54

I was far happier in the 70s & 80s then I am now. Things were easier and people seemed kinder. I felt more free then I do now. Now I just feel bogged down with bills and worry. Everything is so expensive. I have health issues now. On several meds. Years ago a GP was a family doctor. Now you are just a number to them. Neighbours were like family. And had family around.

CounsellorTroi · 07/07/2025 11:14

Music was definitely better in the 70s and 80s. It’s just so dreary now.

ohnomeagain · 07/07/2025 11:34

Born in 1960, teenager in 1970s, young person in the 80s. In my opinion, these were bloody awful decades!

Although I was a child in the 60s, there was certainly no 'swinging vibe' in the rural village where I lived. The society we lived in was dull and (upon reflection) extremely biased. There was still an unhealthy post-war nostalgia around as well. The 70s were particularly miserable, threatening and people were violent. I think hooliganism was born somewhere in the groovy 70s. Lots of sexism too, which I noticed a a teenager just entering the workplace (when I could get a job). The 80s had their own particular brand of awfulness. Huge class divisions, more racist crap and lots of false highs and real lows in the economy.

No, in my opinion, those decades were worse by far than today. There was no pre-Internet innocence. I do like some of the music and some of the fashion from those decades, but I am far from nostalgic about the society of forty, fifty or sixty years ago.

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