To regift presents this year ?

[LadyExpecting93]

I have a beautiful pink scarf that I bought from Marks and Spencer a couple of years ago. I’ve worn it a couple of times and it really is in ‘good’ condition I would say. Although no tags on it. I was thinking of regifting this to my Grandma this year for Xmas. I’ve of course got her a couple of other small things such as a diffuser and some chocolate.

Am I over thinking that this might be ‘stingy’ to regift something I have used? I know she would love it and wouldn’t think twice.

I have been trying to think of creative ways to give people gifts this year- I have even thought about making things for some.

I am pregnant with my first. Both me and DP are late twenties and don’t earn a fortune at all. We aren’t due until the summer but we are really trying to budget already and especially with gifts this year, without looking like we haven’t made an effort?

He was 89 - if he hadn’t bought it himself by in 89 years, he probably didn’t need or want it. He loved boiled sweets, so I always got him so of those as well. He was much more bothered about the gesture than the actual present.

I wouldn't have a problem with this if I was your grandma , I wouldn't have a problem with a defuser and a box of chocs either though so I wouldn't over think what you have bought.

Fair enough @WomanStanleyWoman you know your grandad! My mum is the same age and I know she would feel pretty humiliated having a gift 'regifted' to her. She has no dementia or similar so would be very aware. Similarly, she never wants more possessions but I always try and buy something with care that she is currently interested in. It would make me feel uncomfortable to 'trick' her with a fake gift just because she is older.

I do get what you mean, and I did feel a bit uncomfortable at first. If I thought there was something else he’d genuinely have wanted, I would have bought him that, but he was at the stage where he had everything he wanted or needed.

I'm sure you have a good idea of whether she would turn her nose up at this idea.. sounds like you think she'd be ok?

It's no different to if you bought someone a present from a charity shop, eBay etc, which people do do - there are so many excellent condition items - washed and ironed - lovely, non wasteful, you know she'd like it. I have friends and family who would be pleased with second hand/reused accessories or clothes as gifts, as would i... Because we've done/do it. We mostly buy gifts new from shops/etsy/retailers but when nice second hand stuff things crop up, we gift them. I wouldn't hide the fact, just say 'i love this but have only worn twice and thought it's such a waste when it would really suit you'.
There's a snobbery about gifts, but a gift can be in whatever form we choose and it's not a crime to not do the most expensive option!

Honestly wouldn’t give a hoot if someone re-gifted something that they knew I would really like.