To please ask for your assistance in giving my head a wobble

[Tinacollada]

Dating related. Sorry!

Been seeing a guy for a few weeks.
Good banter very charming.
Slept together a couple of times more recently.
All good.

Last night we arranged to meet up and for him to stay at my place. Childcare arranged my end.

Both out on drinks with respective friends prior (for an hour)

What happened is this:

I met him in a packed bar.
He had no friends with him. At all.
He was dancing with other women that were completely rough. I was stood in the corner. I'm very outgoing and no wallflower but I felt awkward as fuck.
I tried to dance with him and ya know join in with the vibe. No.
I tired to have a talk with him and get him home. No.

Obviously we had both had a drink but hen was utterly wasted.

What actually happened is that I gave up and left, he then sent me a load of messages saying I'm jealous and controlling, and mental.

I know I'm not being unreasonable.

I'm just so fucked off that anyone thinks it's ok to behave this way.

Yeah. You assumed he had the same ideas for the night as you. Then you tried to reason with someone who was drunk. Was never going to happen.

Banter?
You should’ve known then you needed to ditch him.

I think he was testing the waters to see what you would put up with. Glad for you that you could just walk away from him. If you didn't who knows what else he would do?

Thank you for the positive replies.

Obviously I've ditched and have got my feet up with a gin 😀

I wasn't ever asking if it was being unreasonable to describe someone as "rough", regardless of their gender

Excellent pointers though !

How do you know they are rough ? They look rough yes but not the same . Focusing on the wrong thing op would it matter if he was dancing with classy looking woman? No he’s a dick get rid.

How am I focusing on the wrong thing ?

I've explained I was let down.

Had arranged childcare.

Got treated like crap.

I'm completely allowed to express if I thought someone looked rough because that's my opinion.

If women want to actually support each other I would guess it's a good idea to "focus" on the fact I've been sent crappy messages and called names but clearly I've missed the point because I said a woman / women looked rough

He looked bloody rough n all and was an embarrassment to himself with his behaviour.

What actually happened is that I gave up and left, he then sent me a load of messages saying I'm jealous and controlling, and mental. eek! He hardly knows you. What a waste of space. I hope he treats his next girlfriend (however 'rough' she may or may not be) better.

Good banter very charming. it's easy to have good bantz and be charming for a short while to get laid.

Festive at which point did I ask my decision about getting laid ?

What a women bashing thread.

Keep him happy girls you know your place 😐

@Tinacollada

Festive at which point did I ask my decision about getting laid ?

What? I wasn't judging your decision I swear! I was critisising him for putting on a good front til he got what he wanted.

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there.

Oh come off it, everyone has seen someone 'rough' and judged them as such....ever watched an episode of Jeremy Kyle and thought 'oooh they look nice, I'd love to get to know them '
OP he's an arsehole that deserves whatever he ends up with, think yourself lucky it won't be you

He is clearly not right for you so stick to your guns and stay away. The women he was dancing with are irrelevant whether they rough, fat, black, white, skinny, bald or extremely tall. He was supposed to meeting you and having a nice evening, his behaviour is the only thing worthy of judgement.

What actually happened is that I gave up and left, he then sent me a load of messages saying I'm jealous and controlling, and mental.

ha ha ha - jealous? Of a rude drunk chatting up OW while purportedly out on a date with you? No thanks mate.

Let him think what he likes, he's shown you he's not the man you hoped he was.

@Tinacollada

And for all those saying it's a terrible thing to describe a women as "rough", if my partner happened to be bi sexual and was dancing with a rough fella and ignoring me, I'd still be pissed off.

Thanks for reminding me there are worse problems than having a crap dating experience 😂

The irony is that you sound rough OP for suggesting they’re rough.

You also have terrible taste in men.

Oh right.

I can't call someone rough but you can say I sound rough?!

Are you him 😂

If you are just recently dating you should have walked in and he be all over you, especially if he was drunk.
He could have at least pretended to be excited to see you!

I would have gone home and dumped him there and then. He sounds like a twat.

Anyhoo OP - have you Dumped By text yet? I hope you were dismissive & rude :)

Charging

Yes

I called him a massive cunt so I think he will have gotten the message

Block and move on.

How are you unreasonable? I can't believe he called you those things! What a jerk.

Ignore the people giving you grief over calling other women rough, it doesn't make you sound awful. I've definitely seen some rough looking ones!

Definitely block and move on. He's a knob.