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AIBU to be upset?

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lark21 · 21/11/2021 16:55

Name changed as outing.

I posted pictures of DS (2) on social media this weekend. My MIL commented 'Obviously DS wants a brother or sister'

I was really quite upset by this comment. We've been trying for a year and had two miscarriages.

I slept on it but couldn't bring myself to reply. I deleted the comment as I was finding it upsetting.

She doesn't know - or atleast I haven't told her and it would be unlike DH to discuss. We're not close. She's only met DS twice. No backstory really, she lives quite a distance from us and covid hampered things. I find her generally a bit difficult and over bearing when we have seen her but nothing out of the ordinary and probably just a case of not knowing each other beyond the surface.

Two questions

AIBU to be upset given that she didn't know?

Was I wrong to delete the comment / should I explain it or just leave it?

OP posts:
Luredbyapomegranate · 21/11/2021 18:25

Sorry to hear you had a rough time.

It’s a tactless comment and it’s quite understandable you are upset. It’s fine to have deleted it. It doesn’t sound that she had any great agenda, so I don’t think you need to tackle her further. If she asks (she won’t), just say coolly that it was an intrusive remark so you removed it.

BonesInTheOcean · 21/11/2021 20:55

@Hankunamatata

Standard overexcited grandparent comment
what?
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