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AIBU?

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To be a little upset

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Northsoutheastwest76 · 21/11/2021 14:15

So background. We have 3dds. 2 SEN. DH works full time. Me part time. DH does bare minimum for kids. Partly due to illness but illness currently under control. I have various health conditions too but I have always got on with it.
The strain of the situation with dds has taken it toll on us both but especially me as I deal with getting them to school and appointments etc and at times it is really difficult. I feel both my physical and mental health has really suffered.
My saviour has been a hobby. It is the only one I have but does involves whole days away from home.
DHs hobby involves half days away from home but also s a gamer and watches lots of TV.
A typical day for him is getting himself up and WFH and than making his own food. TV and bed.
For me I have the strain of getting dds up for school etc. One is extremely part time so I am on the go all day and evening.
So that is the background.
So earlier in the week I was asked out for the day to partake in my hobby. I spoke to DH and he got humpy saying thats another weekend spoiled as he wanted us to go on a family meal and shopping trip. Probably to Game no doubt . I pointed out we could go Sunday. He said it wasn't fair on DD2 as she had mocks. Well no mocks had finished.
In the winter his hobby happens more often than mine but yes I have had a few weekends in the last few months doing it.
Fast forward to Friday and I started getting stuff ready for Saturday. He said O so we are not going out than. I replied we can go Sunday.
Come Saturday morning I leave . Than DD1 gets some good news and he texts me to say they are going out after all to celebrate her achievement.
I was a little upset that they couldn't wait till the Sunday. I now know why as so far today we have had gaming than Grand Prix whilst I have groundhog day.
To be clear I am not overly bothered that they went out but telling me they were going out to celebrate is off IMO
So AIBU

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Shoxfordian · 21/11/2021 14:28

Yanbu

He doesn’t seem like much of a partner

Northsoutheastwest76 · 21/11/2021 14:32

It is getting me down tbh. I keep trying to make him see how stressful getting thr kids up and out is during the week but it just doesn't sink in.

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Tonyschoco · 21/11/2021 14:32

He’s an arsehole. A selfish, lazy arsehole.

Northsoutheastwest76 · 21/11/2021 14:35

I guess he see his job as providing and tbf he does provide enough for me to not need to work. But work is important to me even if it is minimum wage level.

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