Would this annoy anyone else or am I being U?

[Sofiegiraffe]

I'll start by saying my DP is very hands on with our DC and housework. He does a lot on top of his full time job. So I think I'm being a bit picky here but this is winding me up beyond belief so I came here for some perspective. 😬

Every time he removes clothes from the dryer or radiators he dumps them in an unfolded, haphazard pile on the dining table so he can make room for the wet stuff to go on. Every time without fail. He doesn't then come back to it later and fold them into piles of who's is who's etc... Just leaves it. Sometimes for days. Inevitably I then start the process of unpicking and folding items from the random pile so they can be taken upstairs and put away.

I know it's great he does these jobs. I get that and I'm grateful (I'm currently on mat leave with our baby and he does do a lot around his job). But my frustration is twofold: 1) it's sort of like doing half a job in my opinion. I wouldn't for example remove the dishes from the dishwasher and just leave them on the side for someone to sort and put away. I'd just put them away straight away as I view it as part of the same job. 2) It creates a pain in the arse scenario for me when I'm trying to find baby's clean clothes to dress her when leaving the house in a hurry - I'm searching for things through what is effectively the equivalent of a jumble sale of clothes taking over our dining table. It's basically as though by doing one part of a job, he then creates another job for someone else.

So... AIBU that he's doing half a job here and he should at least fold neatly in a pile any clothes he removes from the radiators?! Or do I need to just accept that he at least does half a job so I should finish it off for him without grumbling? 😬

I can see why he leaves it if he is doing it just before he leaves for work or in a spare 5 minutes. That said if you are both eating together you could take a couple of minutes before the meal to fold them in piles and then take them up when you next go upstairs.

Just throwing out how my parents did it. In case your DC are old enough to try this all family method.

All dry laundry was tossed on my parents bed during the day. After dinner, we’d all (8 of us children) go upstairs and sit in a row. My dad would start passing laundry to my mum, keeping back anything that was his. My mum would keep what was hers in her lap and pass to eldest (me). Then we’d pass the clothes on down the row with each person keeping anything that was theirs. Youngest of course just had to sit and wait. Then we’d all go to our rooms and fold and put away our own laundry with the older ones helping the younger ones (we were sharing two to a bedroom as children). It was the absolute fastest way to get through the daily laundry that ten people create.

This all sounds so silly. I would do all these jobs myself, and then they get done quicker, and in a better fashion. You are only talking about a normal amount of clothes, and dishes, unless you have about 20 people living in the house. Just get on with things, all done, neat and quick, then you will have some spare time for yourself.