Xmas-buying for kids only his side not mine

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So dh family can't afford to buy for adults this year so all agreed to buy kids only of which there are only about 5 of. No such thing mentioned on my side but there are no kids just divorced parents to buy for who won't get anything if we don't get them a gift so is it unreasonable to still get my divorced parents gifts but only kids his side as agreed?

Of course that isn't unreasonable.

We just buy for dc with dp's siblings, but buy a gift for dbro who has no dc.

Of course it isn't.

Huh? Dhs family are doing it one way, you do it that way for theirs. Your family are doing it another way, you do it that way for theirs. Isn’t that how everyone does it? My dhs family are doing a kk, we are in it of course. That is completely irrelevant to what my family are doing though!!

His family have come to an agreement. Your family are separate and not part of this agreement. Do whatever you think appropriate.

Can you put a bit more detail in?
Like… has he refused you to use household money to buy presents for your parents and justified it because he’s not buying for his?
Because if so, him getting to dictate is a much bigger issue than this specific example.
Why are you posting here instead of just saying, “no - I’m buying for my parents”?

Not unreasonable, the agreement is within the families. Would be odd to assume your parents are part of it. Has he said it is unreasonable?

Of course it's not unreasonable to get your parents a present. Why should they/you miss out because an unrelated (to them) family has chosen not to exchange gifts?

To look at it another way - would put be reasonable to buy no gifts at all for your side, while buying five for his side?

Of course it's not unreasonable to buy your parents a goofy for Christmas.

Set yourselves a present budget each. You spend yours on your adult family and he spends his on the children in his family.