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To be worried about my sister and her drinking

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Lilybow · 20/11/2021 23:20

My sister is a lot younger than me, she's in her early twenties and single.

She's obviously just single and enjoying herself, going out and drinking, meeting new people which is normal and fair enough, I did that when I was single!

However the states she gets into are worrying me. She drinks to a point she doesn't know where she is, blacks out, she walks off from her friends and ends up in a club alone, bars alone or walking home alone. She's had bouncers have to look after her numerous times and one time staff from a shop looked after her! She never knows why this happens it just does. Her friends don't sound great, they clearly don't look out for each other.

Theres been times she's fallen over and hurt herself but she thinks it's funny. She takes different men home to hers every time she goes out or goes to theirs. It's her business who she sleeps with but I worry she's going to meet someone bad, there's just so many randoms she's taking to her house.

With all the drink and needle spiking at the moment in the news, and the fact she acts like she's invincible when she drinks just has me worrying about her a lot. She doesn't listen when I say she needs to be more careful, she even says she feels disgusting and doesn't want to carry on this way, her drinking isn't good on nights out etc, but then she does it again anyway and it's the same story. I can't tell her but it's starting to make me feel sick hearing it all the time.

I feel helpless and sick that I might get a call that she's in trouble, but she thinks I'm ridiculous. I also wonder why I'm caring so much if she's not going to help herself. I just can't help feeling like she's playing with fire but there's nothing I can do. It's good she can confide in me but it's taking its toll on me now. Should I just chill out? I know she's an adult, am I being ridiculous?

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MurielSpriggs · 20/11/2021 23:32

To be honest it doesn't sound healthy, I can see why you'd be worried, but the common wisdom is that there's pretty much nothing you can do except keep the channels of communication open (unless you feel like knowing what's going on is disproportionately bad for your mental health).

Whether that's always true, I don't know. I used to drink far too much, and now don't drink at all. Knowing that people I trusted were concerned at the amounts I was consuming did help me to realise that it wasn't normal.

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