is your lad out tonight?

[localgirl]

smeeinachristmastree and southeastastra? I know you have boys about same age as my ds1. Are yours out in the cold tonight? What do they do? Mine (15) is out somewhere, just about now thinking about spraying himself with extra strong lynx (don't know where he gets that!) and sucking mints ready to hide the smell of whatever him and his chavvy friends have been getting down them tonight. As if I fell off that Christmas tree!! All those years of Fridays in with my lovely little boy and thinking I was bringing him up right and this is what I end up with. Gutted. At least he is only out on Fridays atm which is some consolation. But it is so cold tonight! I feel it for him still and hope he comes home early but he never does. How do they stand it?

Mine is at youthclub(14), will be back about 10.

panto - mine seem to resist youth clubs as though they were "not cool enough" or whatever - but at least he would be warm! when I fetch him tonight he will be like a block of ice, serves him right I know but honestly I feel it like it was myself! I wish there was more indoor stuff for them to do that they would actually go to

I'm waiting for his phone call about now - he tries to stretch it out but I'm on his case! I wish he was still 5 instead of 15 it was all so easy then

Our youthclubs, (we have two and only live in a very small town, about a mile end to end) are very popular for some reason. But they are quite well funded and tbh I think they only go so they can have a game of pool and thrash the pants off their mates on the giant PS2.

ds2 who is 14 is laid horizontal on the setee waiting for the replay of the Ricky Hatton fight to start because I refused to pay sky an obscene amount of money to get up at 4 am to watch it but ds3 who is 13 has just been picked up from swimming and I saw some of the local lads down the road, the looked freezing but refusing to show it.

mine isn't out, he's glued to the internet at home. in a way i wish he was out at least he'd be talking in rl

he'll be in soon localgirl

bubbles you know those awful groups of kids who are out at night, that you hope will pass your house without ripping some of your plants out? I think my son is in a group like that. Hes never actually been in any trouble but I know there is a gang of them who go to the local park and they drink and despite all my best efforts he still goes and because he does come back when I ask him and never seems to have been drinking (won't admit it but I can smell it) it seems harsh to permanently ground him, but I hate it, hate it and would love him to be in a club somewhere with a big playstation and pool table, but I think this drinking thing is a bigger attraction - drives me mad

Mine only goes to youthclub on a Friday, the rest of the weekend, he's on the streets.

southeast, good to see you here on the friday night slot, be glad yours is in. Mine is four minutes over his agreed time to phone me now, I am watching the clock. My DS2 (12) is in of course, glued to world of warcraft, and driving us mad with his guitar but better that than what ds1 is up to

panto, what is it about being out on the streets? What is the attraction? They see their friends all day at school, what extra can they get out in the dark and cold all night?

No idea, I do worry but, then I think we used to hang about on the streets in a group of boys and girls at that age. I do always remind him not to mug old ladies when he goes out, though, just in case he gets any ideas!

still no phone call, am getting twitchy now

Can you phone him, or is he not likely to answer?

If it's any comfort when I was 15 I used to drink Thunderbird in the park with my mates and I've turned out reasonably well-adjusted .

panto - the agreement is he will phone 9.30 for a collection 9.45 - both misssed now. oh there goes phone biab

it's still early for a 15 year old, don't worry

Mines glued to his laptop watching manga. There is nothing out there to go out for here... open fields, woodland and no other humans for miles.

Mine just got in, mooched off to his room to watch the Mighty Boosh (his new favorite thing)

been through drinking thing with ds1 who,s 19 now and i found that the harsher we were with him the more likely he was to do it behind our backs.He used to get round our rules by staying at a friends house for the night who,s mum didnt mind or care if they hung round on street corners drinking.when we laid down some ground rules about drinking and saying we didnt mind if he kept it to a reasonable amount and didnt end up in casualty or in trouble with the police, he seemed to respect us more and the rules we had agreed on.It doesnt matter how many times you tell them they refuse to believe that we were their age once and we know all the tricks and scams about putting one over on your parents.

Were back! Not too bad on times really no Lynx tonight and no mints so guessing not too much cider or whatever. Absolutely blue with cold though!! Bubbles - good advice, I know what you say makes sense and try really hard to accept he does have some alchol with the group but its hard. Suppose there' s a few years of this to come now so better settle back for the ride. Thanks everyone for moral support off for cup of tea can relax now I've got him back. Realise have to get over this Friday night thing but need more training

sorry to say localgirl the worry of where they are and if they are allright doesnt get any easier when they get older.i still get up about 5 am at weekends to make sure ds1 is home and is safe,if I havent heard him come in.

mines in bed now,but will be out at the weekend.i hate it.i know he is fairly sensible but cant sleep when hes out.