Another MIL moan

[Notanotheroneaboutcovid]

I went into labour during the night, contractions aren’t close enough to go to the hospital yet and I’ve been keeping busy and milling around.

DH and I went for a walk this afternoon and popped into my MIL shop, a customer came in (no idea who the lady is, neither does DH) and straight away MIL tells her “oh this is Jane, she’s in labour! Contractions every 8 minutes, isn’t that exciting”.

I’ve had three messages from people saying they’d heard I was in labour, one was told by MIL directly and is not someone DH would normally speak to and the other two heard through the grape vine.

Is it unreasonable to expect things like this not to be gossip?

@PinkSyCo

Oh God it sounds like you’re going to be one of ‘those’ DILs. Poor woman, I feel sorry for her.

This!

Did you tell her you didn't want people to know?

@PinkSyCo

Oh God it sounds like you’re going to be one of ‘those’ DILs. Poor woman, I feel sorry for her.

I feel sorry for her too

You are correct in your thread title

This was a moan

And an unreasonable one at that

Be glad that people are excited for you and don’t get worked up about non issues.

Life is short and babies are good news

The people messaging you ABU. Who does that? Just wait until baby is born, then message.

Erm, you are pregnant. It stands to reason that at some point you will be in labour. This is a non-issue.

Life must be very bitter for you if you get upset by a relative being excited for you.
Yabu.

I couldn't get worked up about this unless you're trying to avoid press intrusion and haven't mentioned it in your OP. I'd tell your family though so they don't hear it from a randomer.

Rule no.1.
Do not share any info that you do not want shared 10x over to people you don't know.

Half a town knows I had severe pnd thanks to MiL

I'm going to sit on the fence with this one. My MIL has form for telling anyone who will listen about other people's health conditions in intimate detail, and also speculating on what, why and how, so I can understand why you're feeling frustrated. It's not nice to realise that someone is gossiping about your body/health. But unless you've asked her not to, your MIL probably just feels she's sharing exciting news after a really long wait.

You might want to keep the details of stitches, tears and examinations to yourself though if you're not happy with her sharing that info too.

Yabvu, she’s obviously excited. And that’s her grandchild on the way. Get over it.

Imagine taking the time while IN LABOUR to start this thread.

As you say, OP, it was a moan. Hopefully it will blow over accordingly. Good luck with the birth and enjoy your newborn.

Once baby is here, no doubt you will be one of those DIL’s moaning that MIL wants to see baby too much feel sorry for her!

Poor woman. She just wants to share her exciting news, stop being so horrible.
When I went into labour with mine, my mother practically jammed the phone exchange phoning everyone and anyone with excitement, which I thought was hilarious.