To think it’s not as easy as that

[Usernamename1]

I’m going through a rough time at the moment and have spent a lot of time trawling through threads and googling things to help me get through. A phrase I keep seeing is “get support from friends/family”.

But what exactly is support? And where do you find or how do you ask for support when you don’t have a lot of people around you and the few you do have , have already got plenty of their own problems to deal with?

I don’t even know why I am posting this I’m just feeling really lost and alone at the minute and have no idea how to get this support I keep seeing people going on about.

For those of you in the same boat how do you cope when things get tough?

I have no friends, and it's just me, dh and dc.. We have nice teas we have all cooked together.. Film night with a few sweets and hope tomorrow brings a better day.
Sorry if things are tough right now op..

@Santaischeckinglists thank you I am sure I will be okay. It’s just me and my kids now but I am sure they will get me through. I do have a couple of friends but don’t like offloading my problems on people who are already dealing with their own.

[quote Usernamename1]@Santaischeckinglists thank you I am sure I will be okay. It’s just me and my kids now but I am sure they will get me through. I do have a couple of friends but don’t like offloading my problems on people who are already dealing with their own.[/quote]
Sometimes people are happy to focus on other people’s problems for a while. And it’s always easier to see a solution to other people’s problems than your own! If your friends tell you about their issues, then there’s no reason not to share yours with them. Try it, and you might be surprised at the response.

I think “support” means leaning on friends and family for what you need. Whether that’s to talk it through, with them offering solutions, to just vent with them listening, to sit in silence together, or to focus on something completely different and just be in each other’s company.
I agree with @MsAgnesDiPesto that some people like being able to focus on someone else’s problem, to take their mind off their own, or to feel reassured that their not the only one with problems, so don’t worry about offloading to your friends. They’d want to be there for you. If you don’t want to talk it out, you could just say “I’m feeling a bit lonely right now and would appreciate some company”. I hope it gets better for you and you find a way through how you’re feeling. Keeping a diary could also help your organise/make sense of your thoughts and feelings.

That’s a good point @MsAgnesDiPesto I didn’t see it like that but it makes sense. And thanks @2Hot2Handle that’s a good idea I will write things down and see if that helps. I’m just trying to stay positive but it’s hard sometimes when you feel like you have got nobody to turn to. Will give one of my friends a call tomorrow will be good to talk.