Cheating or not

[mrsstrange245]

Hi everyone I will try and explain the situation
A year ago my partner and I Invited friends. I invited my best friend female and he invited 2 friends one female and one male.
We were all drinking apart from his girl mate. My partner likes to get cuddly sometimes it can be a bit too much as I can't even have a proper convo with my friend without him pulling me away for a cuddle it's distracting and can become quite annoying. So I said no to a cuddle he then asked his girl mate for a cuddle so she went and sat on his knee and they cuddled for 5 mins I thought this was wrong. I walked out of my room and stayed by myself for abit I didn't want to cause a scene.
It took me 6 months to tell my partner what happened he was so sorry and that he was going to have minimal contact with her he also told me that he was so drunk he didn't remember.
I feel disgusted with him she single so I'm not really bothered with her doing what she wants.
I had s bad feeling and I snooped on his phone he has invited her camping her reply was that they should invite other friends and he also been trying to make plans with her I thought that was quite wrong after what happened??? He also mentioned last year when me and him broke up that he wanted to get drunk with her am I going mental here or does he have feelings?
He said he doesn't fancy her and that she's not his type but it doesn't feel that way to me he says he only wants to be with me
How do I broach that I snooped on his phone and I saw what he had said to her after he told me he was minimal contact?
Iv got trust issues and I don't know if im being unreasonable or not?

Whether he has it hasn't cheated or whether he would like to, you are obviously not happy or secure and he's not supporting you.

I'd walk away as he sounds like an arse anyway.

Hugging a friend to say hello/goodbye or cheer them up is one thing, sitting on their knee and continuously ‘cuddling’ for 5 mins is quite another.
I also think the fact you feel you have to snoop on his phone suggests you don’t trust him. I’m sorry OP, it doesn’t look good for you going the distance.

The whole thing sounds bizarre, it took you 6 months to tell him you didn't like his behaviour, no wonder he had forgotten.
It sounds like the relationship is pretty crap anyway, do you really want to be with him?

Thanks for your replies. The sitting in the knee thing felt weird. I said to him what would you have done if I went and sat on another mans lap and the reply was it wasn't cheating but he would be angry I can't help but feel he has cheated on me. He said she was his girl best mate and now I feel like iv took that away from him because I'm now uncomfortable with their friendship

I want us to work he's good in many ways. When we argue I hold on to things you he calls me bitter and unforgiving I feel resentful towards him and it's slowly breaking me

Walk away… when things like that happen early days its not going to get better