School - wwyd?

[Hortonhearsadoctorwho]

My asd/pda son was excluded from so many schools over the entirety of primary school. He is doing amazing in secondary school, the school are fantastic, he’s thriving and happy. Honestly it’s a miracle.

A new boy has started and has taken a dislike to my son, name calling, making stupid noises at him, he’s generally rowdy and causes trouble in class (according to ds one to ones) staff have said this boy is disruptive and staff are keeping an eye on him.

However, would I be unreasonable to ask that this boy be moved away from my son?

That sounds awful but ds is finally doing well and is settled I really don’t want him to end up in trouble or too anxious to go to school.

Definitely ask. Is there a safe space your ds can go at break/lunch to avoid this child? If they’re in the same form, I’d ask for him to be shuffled elsewhere if possible. It happens a lot in my school.

Not at all. It wouldn't surprise me if the staff weren't expecting you to ask and have voiced their concerns privately
I hope it gets sorted soon

You could ask the Head of Year to request that your son isn't sitting near this child in lessons and see if there can be somewhere he can go at lunch to get away from the student. The Head of Year can also make staff aware that this student might be targeting your son and ask that staff keep an eye out and log any concerns.

Thank you so much I appreciate it.

Yes, ask.

So your sons issues need special treatment and understanding but this child's don't? I know where you're coming from but I think you might be a bit blinkered and lacking in empathy.

@PicaK

So your sons issues need special treatment and understanding but this child's don't? I know where you're coming from but I think you might be a bit blinkered and lacking in empathy.

He doesn't have issues unless the OP has failed to mention them, he is just being rowdy and disruptive. Why would the OP prioritise his feelings over her sons feelings?

So your sons issues need special treatment and understanding but this child's don't? I know where you're coming from but I think you might be a bit blinkered and lacking in empathy.

I have no idea about what this child needs. He doesn’t have 1-2-1.
To be honest after fighting for years for my son I genuinely couldn’t care less about what this other child needs.
It’s up to his parents and the school to find the right support or setting for him and protect the rights of the other children to get an education.