To not drive a nervous passenger!

[november90]

And when I say nervous I also mean a backseat driver who is so dramatic he comments on and engine sound as if I'm going to break down and holds onto the sides when I turn corners!! 🙈

Basically it's my dad. He knows he's a nervous passenger but would argue being a back seat driver... although don't they all!

But the situation I've been in is that we're going away with family and my mum and dads car have broken down. My mum came up with a plan where by she goes with my sister and my dad comes with me. I actually said no to this. The reason being that as much as my dad is a nervous passenger, I am a nervous driver. The thought of driving him makes me dread the drive none stop. I just can't do it. I was in an accident just before lockdown and because of lockdown never got my confidence up driving again so now it's a bit of an elephant on the room! But I just get so stressed when I'm around stressed people...

But I feel awful for saying no. They obviously have alternative options and of course I'd drive him if that was the into way.... but I just feel bad. Aibu?

Can’t you just swap so your mum’s with you and your dad with your sister? Or does your mum not want you to drive her, either 😃

Why can't you take mother and dad goes with sister?

Why can’t your parents both go with her sister?

Yeah my mum is like this and I’m not a confident driver and it really undermines my confidence. Her jerking about and waving her arms, and clutching the ceiling and doors really distracts me as it’s all I can see in the mirror.

Send him with your sister.

I would put your dad on your insurance let him drive him and your mum, and you go with your sister on her car. No stress for anyone then 😄

I’ve been in 3 collisions where I was the front-seat passenger & a car pulled out of a side road without looking so the impact was right where I was sitting. It makes me a nervous passenger & I’m always apologising for flinching. My family have just learnt to ignore me.

As you have a choice I’d say take your mum instead & not feel bad about it.

Well they've come up with another solution now so it's sorted but I was made to feel bad and a pain about it because I said no 🙈
But my sister wanted my mym in the car with her to have her dog sit in her knee whilst she dropped her off at the dog sitters (dads not a dog person!).
I feel bad for saying no in the first place but at the same time.... it would be so stressed!

@HeddaGarbled hahahah maybe my driving is the issue 😅

@WhenZoomWasJustAnIceLolly hehehehe sorry but this made me laugh because it's so true! 🙊

Some people can safely drive with a crying baby in the car and some can't. Some can safely drive with loud music and some can't. If you know that you personally have a psychological vulnerability to becoming distracted by a particular avoidable in-car environment, you have a responsibility to avoid driving in those circumstances. You can't have someone in the car with you who makes you an unsafe driver.