People who don't say thank you.. aibu?

[Zeenas]

My cousin recently had a big milestone birthday so I decided to send her something a bit special.. an item of jewelry that I knew she liked. Sent it recorded mail so could track that it arrived safely. It did, but I only knew that from royal mail website. She didn't even bother to contact me, not even a quick text. I waited nearly 2 weeks, just in case she was ill or some crisis stopped her. I texted to ask if it had arrived (didn't say I already knew it had!). Then she just replied with words like "oh yeah, got it thanks.."
Aibu to think this is rude? Wouldn't have said thank you unless I chased?

I just don't bother sending gifts to people who don't want or acknowledge gifts.

Obviously didn’t like it. Still very rude.

Horrendously rude.

Sounds like she didn't really like it but it's not the point - you should still say thank you!

Clearly didn't like or want it. Depending on how much it was, whether you want to continue the relationship and how upset you are I would have to say something.

If the gift wasn't to your taste feel free to send back and I'll send you a voucher for Her Favourite Shop then maybe don't, depending on what happens next.

@3scape I've decided to start doing this as well

I would only send a card from now on.

Spectacularly rude, yes.

So rude!

I bought my friend a very expensive lipstick and she didn't take it out of the box to look at the colour. I was fuming

I can sort of understand her forgetting to text thanks when the parcel arrived / when she opened it if she was busy or got distracted by the phone ringing etc and genuinely forgot she hadn't done it, but if that was me, when prompted I would have made sure to thank you properly. Its very rude not to.

I have family like this, I stopped buying gifts but I really enjoyed picking out special gifts for them so it actually hurt to stop.

I've had relatives who haven't thanked me for gifts - never bothered with them since. The most recent was my husband's nephew (husband's sister's son) who had their 1st baby (well, his wife did!). I bought 3 lovely baby outfits from Next (£55) plus a card, my husband took them round 5 days after they'd gt home from the hospital (I didn't go as was unwell). That was 4 weeks ago, not had so much as a text.

I find people who are unable to accept gifts graciously very annoying.

I hate bad manners. They cost nothing and show a lot about someone. Yes of course thru should say thank, my DS who's 4 sends out thank you cards, it's just basic manners

It’s so so rude. I have had this and I hate it. Makes me not want to bother in future!

Yes, rude.

That would be the last present she had from me.

She wouldn't receive anything from me again

Very rude I wouldn't send anything again

Thinkbiglittleone

I hate bad manners. They cost nothing and show a lot about someone. Yes of course thru should say thank, my DS who's 4 sends out thank you cards, it's just basic manners
Totally agree with this - my DH's family are all like this.

@Thinkbiglittleone

I hate bad manners. They cost nothing and show a lot about someone. Yes of course thru should say thank, my DS who's 4 sends out thank you cards, it's just basic manners

Me too.

For Xmas send her a bag of fresh sprouts.
Ungrateful cowbag.

@TheCreamCaker

I've had relatives who haven't thanked me for gifts - never bothered with them since. The most recent was my husband's nephew (husband's sister's son) who had their 1st baby (well, his wife did!). I bought 3 lovely baby outfits from Next (£55) plus a card, my husband took them round 5 days after they'd gt home from the hospital (I didn't go as was unwell). That was 4 weeks ago, not had so much as a text.

I got around 60 gifts when I had a baby and wrote proper thank you cards, but with a newborn this took a while. Like a lot of people, I had a photo thank you card printed up so that took a few days to come before I could even start writing during nap times. Give them time!!

yes, like a pp I can understand not getting round to saying thank you immediately when it's a special b'day with lots of gifts etc but when prompted not to apologise and being ungracious, that's just rude.

Nothing to do with gifts but one of DD's friends never says thanks when I give her a lift home after an activity and it's really started to piss me off. Feel like saying 'what's the magic word' next time, even though she's 16

She found time to open it though..