Spending Xmas abroad.

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We're spending Christmas in the Seychelles we're childless not through choice.
I'm fed up of buying xmas gifts for nieces and nephews and not receiving even a card from my siblings.
We're not bothering with decorations this year. AIBU to not bother with gifts for my nieces and nephews?

Send them each a selection box and then do the same going forward.

I would say that if children of primary age haven't been taught to send thank you cards/ messages, thats a parenting failure, and not a sign they arent thankful. If you dont send anything, that would be punishing the children due to their parent's choices.

Send something small for each. Accept you won't get thank yous but chalk that up as your / your dhs siblings failures.

I dealt with this by giving the gifts in person when we saw them rather than posting them or leaving for the Day. It’s much nicer to see them open their presents and quite hard to avoid saying thank you.

It’s not very clear whether you are fond of the children though?

Have a fabulous trip.

I agree a text thank you is fine. My son is really bad for not saying thank you...he's 26!!! My partner's godson at 23 always sends a written thank you. Both brought up the same way. It's really annoying. I say to my children it costs nothing to send a text. Daughter much more reliable thank goodness

I would send a card to each family group “ you have donated to a horse/donkey/tiger/monkey sanctuary. The animals thank you” iow I’d rather give money to a charity than give to you. But that’s me :)
Good life lesson for kids too.

Have a brilliant holiday.

I would ask them

"Are we doing presents this year?"

Or

Get each child a selection box.

I didn't realise thank you cards were so frowned upon! I write a dozen each Christmas and birthday, it k pop MLU seems polite when people have spent money and posted gifts...

If you're not going to be there on the day and you don't receive anything in exchange I wouldn't bother with gifts.
If you feel you have to buy a token, make it chocolate for all!

The way your family have treated you is disgraceful! I would send each child a perfunctory £10 book token and that’s it.

Enjoy your holiday OP!

Forget about presents and have a great holiday.