Me and DHs ex (mother of my SC) have just about rubbed along okay since me and DH met. At first she was very unkind to me and so the relative peace we have now was mainly achieved by just keeping out of each others way. We are polite when face to face but that's about it, never had her number, never been overly friendly, never had much more conversation than hi and bye at drop off/pick up.
Anyway, I had our first baby nearly a year ago. A DD.
Since then, DHs ex just seems overly involved. Always wanting to say hello to her, wanting to come in for a 'quick cuddle' at drop off. DH has even started taking her round there when he picks the DSC up as she is apparently "delighted to see her", DSC are always snapping pictures of DD and sending them to her as well. They have even asked if she can come to her birthday party next month.
I understand DD is her children's sister and that must be strange but I feel really uncomfortable at this level of interest in her by DHs ex. Especially when she can barely look me in the face and hasn't always been very nice to or about me (still isn't sometimes).
AIBU? Do I just need to get over this? I already feel like this woman seeps into every part of our lives in some way shape or form, she can be very controlling imo of how DH does things, and now it's happening with DD as well.
I think I'd feel a bit more positively if this seemed to be some sort of olive branch between us type scenario, but it doesn't feel that way. She's interested in DD but still couldn't give me the time of day.
I want to say all these nipping in to see her / him taking her to hers etc... Need to stop. She's not her child and whilst DSC are DDs siblings, she isn't DDs family. Her and DH don't even get along themselves most of the time!