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AIBU - lay in on my birthday

39 replies

jessieb90 · 18/11/2021 07:37

Hi all,

It's my birthday today, my first as a mum, and I asked my partner last night for a lay in - only til 8, but still I wanted one. I asked last night, he initially said no but pulled out the birthday card and he agreed.

LO stirred this morning and OH didn't get up and say he needed to log on for work. He works from home on Thursdays and has no meetings until 9!

We've had a big row, he's not said happy birthday and says he won't if I'm going to be in a "mood"! He chucked the fact he paid for a girls weekend away in my face - to which I responded do you want a medal, we both agreed to having a baby and you want praise for looking after your OWN son whilst I'm away!

Of course I'm grateful for the money, but don't think it should be chucked in my face and I feel like I should have had a lay in this morning. I know I'm ok Mat leave for for his bday he had a lay in and breakfast made in bed!

Am I being a spoilt brat?

OP posts:
TotallySuper · 18/11/2021 09:51

In contrast my DH always books my birthday off work and encourages a lie in then will usually always bring breakfast in bed or we go out for breakfast with or without the kids (depending on school days etc) and make lovely plans. He sounds like a man child. There is no way he couldn't have let you sleep in and then he could have got ready for work between 8 and 9. He's rude. Go out and enjoy your day.

jessieb90 · 18/11/2021 11:39

Thanks guys!

He's definitely not abusive. He's selfish sometimes yes, but not abusive!

Like I said he pulls his weight in so many ways but then doesn't in others!

I'm just upset he could be so selfish on my birthday! Any other day and I wouldn't care!

OP posts:
PurpleDaisies · 18/11/2021 11:40

Was he actually working from early this morning? That would make a big difference to me.

jessieb90 · 18/11/2021 11:40

@DownWhichOfLate he's 33 so not young young! X

OP posts:
PurpleDaisies · 18/11/2021 11:40

The sulking and not saying happy birthday is totally rubbish though. Has he apologised yet?

jessieb90 · 18/11/2021 11:44

@PurpleDaisies nope still not said sorry. He's trying to act as if nothings happened now! But I want a sorry!

OP posts:
TotallySuper · 18/11/2021 11:56

Go out! Enjoy yourself. Sod him. He shouldn't need prompting for an apology or get away with acting like nothing happened.

PurpleDaisies · 18/11/2021 11:58

[quote jessieb90]@PurpleDaisies nope still not said sorry. He's trying to act as if nothings happened now! But I want a sorry! [/quote]
Don’t drop it. He’s treated you really badly and he needs to apologise.

billy1966 · 18/11/2021 15:43

OP,

This is when you really see the man you are with.
When you have a young baby.

Be very careful OP.

WTF475878237NC · 18/11/2021 15:49

Mind yourself.

Don't rush into another baby with a man who begrudges you an extra hour in bed on your birthday.

^ excellent advice

Happy birthday!

jessieb90 · 18/11/2021 20:42

Thanks all!

I've had an apology! And we're doing out for a meal just us 2 on Saturday. Think we need some adult time! And sleep would also help ha!

OP posts:
StopGo · 18/11/2021 20:56

Stop being a mug. He has told you how little respect he has.

AutumnLeaves21 · 18/11/2021 22:02

I hope you haven’t only had an apology at almost 9pm, OP. Whole birthday ruined. I’d be so so upset at this. He owes you a lay in and an entire day off!

billy1966 · 18/11/2021 22:21

@AutumnLeaves21

I hope you haven’t only had an apology at almost 9pm, OP. Whole birthday ruined. I’d be so so upset at this. He owes you a lay in and an entire day off!
He ruined your birthday OP.

I think you need to mind yourself.

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