Teenagers and social services

[Letmeoff1]

Hi all,
Desperate for any help/advice or listening ear.... Has anyone else had dealings with social services and been severely let down? TIA

What are you needing from children’s services

I think you're going to need to give a little more information for people to be able to offer any kind of constructive advice.

Severely let down several times. Promises made to teenager and us broken repeatedly on many many occasions. Services promised and never delivered. File shut ASAP reopened 3 days later. Some social workers really tried to find resources but failed at every turn.

I have found social workers to be very nice, but no real support and just an extra layer of stress with meetings and worrying about impressions

Sorry Anonymous48. That was a bit vague. ..
To cut a huge story short..
16yr old daughter ran off to live with bf I've never met. Took nothing. As 16 can live where she wants but she's 'vunarable'. So many red flags of lies, manipulation, grooming, the list is endless. I have a year's evidence of this but no one wants to know. Police wouldn't help. Social services dropped case without telling me and didn't even do a safety check when given horrific reason why they should. The bf mother can't be human to purposely do what she's doing. ..I've even written to head of social services twice and no reply. How can a mothers rights just be whipped away? ! She's my responsibility till 18 and couldn't even tell you her address! Am I on a different planet? It took a lot for me to involve authorities but now I'm wishing I'd done it my way........😢

I’ve got children the same age as your daughter and I’d be devastated if they left, my heart aches for you. Gosh, you poor thing.

You mentioned your daughter is vulnerable? Are you able to elaborate?

In the uk, I assume that’s where you are? children are legally allowed to move away from their parents without their parents permission.

I sent that too quickly…
Children are legally allowed to move away without their parent's permission when they’re 16.

Have you spoken to her since she’s left?
Why did she leave - lots of girls the same age have boyfriends but don’t leave. You mentioned grooming? What is the horrific reason social services should have done a safety check? Sorry for personally questioning and please don’t answer if you don’t want to, I’m just trying to get a better understanding of the situation. X

Yes 16 is legal to leave......i personally think its too young. My daughter has Aspergers and is very easily influenced. Manipulated. She left as started to dabble in drugs, and bf was allowed to live at home without working and allowed to lay about all day and this apparantly was how caring parents should act so off she ran! We messaged rarely. The parents who ive never met man ipulate and lie to keep her there as, and i quote, it gives her son something to do,. Sickening,. I saw a pic of her only 3 months after she went and i could tell she had lost about 2 stone. She is covered in tatoos now and alcohol dependent and still only 17.
I have reported everything i know and offered police and s/s evidence of stuff on my phone. NO SAFTEY CHECK HAS EVER BEEN DONE.
I found out a few months ago s/s had dropped case and not even told me,,,,,,
I could write a book..

Ive never been allowed the address and they have all blocked me from phones. Its gutwrenching.

Ive now heard also shes been made to work 2 jobs to pay rent. BF does not work...........