To just want him to sit still

[Greasyjane]

10 year old ds is a dreadful fidgeter.
At the dinner table he needs reminding every minute or so to sit on his bum rather than crouching/ kneeling up.
Watching tv he’s constantly squirming around
Reading entails convoluted movements with his arms getting in knots with his legs
Etc etc
Drives me crazy and I’m sure he gets fed up of me asking him to sit still.
The only time he sits still is in the car.
I’m wondering if sensory wise it’s the motion of the car or the fact he’s got a seatbelt on and I’m wondering if I can replicate either of these conditions in other environments?
Or do I just have to put up with it?

I would definitely explore getting a diagnosis. It makes a lot of things make sense. It helps understand your child. Also there will be extra support and understanding from the people around him.
Does he have trouble getting to sleep?

Does he struggle with organising himself or impulse control? These are the two reasons I wanted diagnosis/ehcp for my boy before he starts secondary. I honestly have no idea how he'd manage moving round a school and turning up with the right stuff to the right lessons and then managing to bring it home as well.
The fidgeting is irrelevant, though highly provoking at times.

He sleeps well most of the time. I’ll sometimes find him still awake and drawing or playing in his bed long after bedtime but generally he crashes out pretty quickly.

He has pretty much everything on the hyperactive and impulsive list on nhs website. Less so the inattentive stuff but does need telling a number of times to do things like brush his teeth, put his shoes and coat on as he can get distracted very easily.

In other ways he’s really capable though-he’ll sort his school bag and sports kit out and has been making breakfast etc for himself and us from an early age.

He also has tics which I know go hand in hand.

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it’s good manners to sit still at least at the table for reasonably short periods of time

Not in your own home

@Greasyjane I think you're being really rather cruel, let him be when he's at home.

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Thanks that’s interesting. What is the science behind this? ☺️

Look up sensory processing disorder or sensory integration, there are some brilliant books around. For parents / non sciencey people, something like the out of synch child for more technically minded; sensory integration theory and practice.

Sensory Integration Education also do a very wide range of training, from a free conference coming up to short workshops for about £10 or a masters.

it’s good manners to sit still at least at the table for reasonably short periods of time

Not in your own home

@Greasyjane I think you're being really rather cruel, let him be when he's at home.