To worry about points on my license

[beewritesx]

I recently inherited my dad's car and it's a lot wider than the last car I had and I haven't driven in a year (passed just before lockdown!).

Last week I clipped someone's mirror (it was dark) and I knocked on the person's door and told them immediately. They were very nice about it and told me it happens all the time due to where they're parked (on a main road).

Today I bumped someone's car in Asda and feel mortified. I told the driver and he checked for further damage, but it was just a scratch. Anyway, I asked if he wanted my details and he said it was fine and not to worry about it, but I feel mortified! I'm worried he's going to go home and find further damage then request CCTV footage resulting in me losing points on my license. I have an anxiety disorder so overthink things a LOT! Plus, my head is telling me things like, "this is why your husband was right not to put you on his insurance", etc.

I'm at a friend's house and she think I am stressing over nothing!

I did this the first day in my mums car, guy was fine.
I recommend things I did to build confidence and adjust:
-wake up early one Sunday for a motorway run when it’s empty
-spend time in an empty carpark practising, ideally multi-story but a lot is fine. Try manoeuvres until it feels ok
-play around with the seat and mirrors a bit more
-drive backwards somewhere empty and get a feel, try a few corner on empty backroads.

Btw I did the above and full confidence returned, this was ages ago.

If there's CCTV of you hitting his mirror then there's also CCTV of you stopping to tell him. Don't worry about it.

Bumping his car, not hitting his mirror - different incident.

You aren't going to get points, but it does sound like you might want to consider getting a few refresher lessons.

Park further away in car park where it's empty until your used to it.
It's a case of getting used to the car so get some practice in.
You won't get points for this.

Oh dear OP. Don't worry about the car thing you really need some more help with your anxiety. Tackle that and this sort of thing won't bother you

You don’t get points on your license for this type of thing but sounds like you need to maybe not drive at night or try to pull into busy Car parks until you’ve got more of a feel for the car.

Another vote for practising some driving and manoeuvres when it's very quiet. Really helpful. Drive round a city in the early hours, a car park when it's quiet etc.

Also there's nothing stopping you selling the car and buying something you feel more comfortable with. I can never understand people keeping cars they don't like or would never choose just because it belonged to a family member, unless it's worth almost nothing.