Dad moving closer

[TurnUpTurnip]

My dad lives about an hour away from me, I don’t visit him often as I don’t drive and he doesn’t visit me as he has a disability, a few years ago my mum told him he should move closer to the area as it’s where he is from originally so most of his family/ friends live down here. Due to his disability the council were only offering him sheltered accommodation, however he didn’t want to go into sheltered accommodation so decided to stay put. He made it very clear he wasn’t willing to accept sheltered accommodation and was recently offered one in the area but declined it. However I called him a few days ago and he told me he had been speaking to a woman from the council as he found out there was sheltered accommodation on my road, he has asked for his name to be put down for it and is on the waiting list for a place. now whilst that would be nice in theory I just feel it’s too close to home. I am NC with a family member and they have no reason to be on my road but now they will be visiting him on my road, I’m really not happy about this, I feel awful for feeling this way, is it bad to not want him living on my road? I personally wouldn’t choose to live on the same road as family, area is one thing but the actual road. I don’t want my family member who I am NC with regularly visiting my street which could be weekly.

Imo you need to focus on the nice relative (your df) and not the nc one.
Assuming your df knows the situation he could let you know if ncr would be visiting so you could then keep away...

Yes I wouldn’t turn up unannounced but my road is very small, just 8 houses then this block is opposite so when I leave the house it will be unavoidable and the bus stop I use is outside of that block.

@TurnUpTurnip

Yes I wouldn’t turn up unannounced but my road is very small, just 8 houses then this block is opposite so when I leave the house it will be unavoidable and the bus stop I use is outside of that block.

Can't you walk to the next nearest bus stop if it bothers you that much? It's a pain but you can't ban someone you're NC with from visiting a certain road, unless you have some sort of injunction against them.

They would have no reason to visit my road otherwise and I haven’t seen them in nearly 2 years. I think it’s normal to be worried they might suddenly be visiting my road regularly, this person came to my house to attack me the last time I saw them. Yes I can use another bus stop but it’s not that close and with small children it’s going to be a pain with walking and shopping etc

You can still stay NC with the said family member. Just don’t talk to them. Is there a history of abuse is that why you don’t want the nc family member on your road?

Yes as I posted above they have come to my house twice kicking off saying they are going to “beat me up” obviously I didn’t answer the door. We are no contact for a very good reason.

If they are threatening you can you get a non molestation order to stop them approaching you? Who is it a sibling?

Yes it’s a siblings, just spoken to my father and it seems she is the reason he will be moving to my road, he doesn’t understand the severity of the situation and why we are no contact, she has turned up at my house several times since I’ve stopped speaking to her so will use this as an excuse to harass me but seems I’m being unreasonable so will just have to suck it up.

In the kindest way op it isn't your road. Your home just happens to be on it. You can still feel safe in the place you call home.

Ok the same road as me, I’m glad so many wouldn’t be feeling worried that someone who previously tried to beat them up and they haven’t seen in 2 years and would like to keep it that way will now be regularly finding reasons to visit the “road they live on”

Just take no shit.. Any abuse you report them to the police. Show them you won't take any crap.

If your sibling wanted to come cause you trouble, they already can as they know where you live.
If they do, call the police.

You can't spend your life twisting with anxiety every time you think you may have to confront or come face to face with this person.

I am not unsympathetic to your concern, but you have to take your power back.

They have tried, they’ve turned up at my house but I didn’t answer the door, I wouldn’t want to involve the police as I would be worried about retaliation, looks like I will have to move (was going to do this at some point anyway eventually but will have to speed it up!)

Nothing is certain yet - look at your options and try not to worry before it happens. I agree with others that you should contact the police if you have any trouble.