Not to do go party because of covid risk?

[Irishfarmer]

I am supposed to go to a family party this weekend. But I am worried about covid. I have a very large family who will all be there, along with friends, some are flying in from other countries, we would be talking 50+ people.

I want to go, I haven't seen lots of my family for a few months, I live about 3 hours away. I was all set to go, and hope for the best, I am double vaccinated. The hosts house is small enough (only mention it as there won't be a lot of indoor space, perfectly normal size house), we are hoping to use the garden but people will be going in/out for the loo/ drinks and if it gets too cold etc, so I can guarantee we will not be distancing.

I've just found out I am 4 weeks pregnant. I've had two mc's in the last 12 months and I'm worried about catching it and potentially mc again.

Not really sure what to do now. I want to go, and I was intending to go until I found out about the pregnancy. Numbers are getting very high here again. I had figured if I was unfortunate enough to get it I wouldn't get too sick since I'm vaccinated, and that we have to go on living our lives, but now I'm worried if I did get it I might MC.

AIBU not to go?

When were you vaccinated? And which vaccine? AZ and Pfizer have different rates of protection as time passes

We all have different attitudes to risk. Previously, I was very cautious. Now, I'm more leaning towards "We have to learn to live with this, can't hide for ever"

I don't know if Covid is a risk to pregnancy

In your shoes, I suspect I'd play it cautious. But it does seem a shame to miss out. Tricky

I was all for, just go and have fun, but your pregnancy news changed my opinion. If you don't feel comfortable going, then don't
Don't suppose you've told anyone yet so you might have to do some creative thinking to avoid giving offence x

@Fabian15

I was all for, just go and have fun, but your pregnancy news changed my opinion. If you don't feel comfortable going, then don't Don't suppose you've told anyone yet so you might have to do some creative thinking to avoid giving offence x

"I think I have Covid" is a rock solid excuse. And then explain later

I have Pfizer and my 2nd dose was the start of July.

I was thinking of leaving it until Saturday saying I have symptoms and am going to a test Monday, I can then tell them it's negative. Then when I do tell people I can tell them the truth, I don't think they will be annoyed about being lied to, that's if they even remember I wasn't there, as I said HUGE family.
I don't want to miss out, but I am more concerned about another potential MC. A friend who is near her due date had covid and whilst she didn't mc and the baby seems fine she is terrified she has done some damage, even though it is not her fault she caught a virus!

Does Covid cause miscarriage? My understanding is the risk is at the end of the pregnancy. Congratulations on your pregnancy. If you’re vaccinated and want to go I’d go.

I’m pregnant after 3 MC, I know this anxiety only too well. I wouldn’t go. I’m missing lots of things at Christmas, but it’s the safest way.

There is no link between covid and baby loss aside from those who are unvaccinated ending up in intensive care. Sorry I do understand why you're anxious but YABU. And I know this first hand, I had covid recently, double jabbed, first trimester of pregnancy. It was like having a bad cold for 4 days then fine and no issue at all to baby.

I wouldn't risk potentially getting covid while pregnant if it could be avoided. And this party can be avoided.

Covid is really best avoided while pregnant.

How will the baby get enough oxygen if you can't?

In your shoes I wouldn't take the risk.

I would protect the pregnancy, and protect the baby as my top priority.

There's so much we don't know about covid yet.

YANBU. Do what feels right. If you are nervous you might not enjoy the event anyway.

I was going to say YABU until I read you’re pregnant. Do what you think it’s best and makes you more comfortable

Thanks for all of your responses. I was going no question until I found out I'm pregnant. I suppose it's just after the two MC I'm probably a bit more cautious. DH doesn't want us to go but he said it's my decision.

Still haven't decided yet. Even with numbers high it's still probably unlikely I'd catch it, but if I did and MC'd (even if it was nothing to do with covid) I'd find it hard to forgive myself.