To report biting to nursery

[Thumbelina3]

My 20 month old son has come home from nursery today and it looks like another child has bitten his hand. There was no mention of this at pick-up. Would I be unreasonable to report this to nursery and ask them to tell me what happened or am I just being precious? Even if he has been bitten, I don’t know whether my son did something to provoke it and I guess biting must happen from time to time.

@Thumbelina3 why might it be unreasonable to mention this?

Not unreasonable at all. They should definitely have noticed and told you. We always get an accident report when DS had been bitten (which didn't happen often but did from time to time - noticeably three times in two days once!). It's normally just one of those things that just happens at that age but it's worth them noting it for sure.

I'd mention it to them but as they haven't mentioned it, they're probably unaware that it has happened.
I know that the children should be being watched all the time but biting can happen so quickly. They will probably be genuinely mortified that they didn't notice.

Biting is serious. You must ask about it even if provoked because you might find out the real story. I had a frantic mother call me that my son bit hers. Her son was easily three times the size as mine, had sat on him and the only thing ds could move was his mouth, which he bit the child with. After I found this out I called the mother back and told her to fuck the fuck off, not in those words though!

Of course it isn’t unreasonable. One of mine went through a period of biting. It was mortifying. I was very grateful though if other parents reported it because it was a problem that needed to be dealt with and other children shouldn’t have to put up with it.

The nursery were great and not only did they deal with it at nursery, they were very supportive helping us deal with it at home (he has a twin so it wasn’t isolated to nursery).

Just do it.

Report it.

My DS has been bitten a few times, upsetting for us but the fact that it had been taken seriously, the incident explained, a report and a plan to guide the other child in those situations to prevent it happening again.

I'd be mad if they hadn't noticed/ mentioned it.

It's mostly frustration why children bite, so im sure nothing sinister but I'd want to know all the same.

Reporting an issue with another child is not nasty, cruel or making a fuss. It’s a kindness, Whatever is happening with that child needs to be sorted out and the parents need support to stop it.

I’d have expected the staff to have noticed and filled in an accident form/let you know.

DD was bitten on the face in the toddler room. It’s really common among that age group and not necessarily a big concern, still worth mentioning to the staff though in case they’re not aware.